How to Hold on to Hope in a Struggling Marriage

By all accounts, we had a strong marriage. We served in the church and had a deep commitment to our faith. Our children pursued academic and extra-curricular activities with our full support. So many things were going well for our family.

We were in our 14th year of marriage on the day that everything fell apart. Suddenly, many things about my marriage were called into question. I felt utterly terrified by what played out before my eyes. Surely it must be a mistake, though they assured me it was not.

Is your marriage struggling? Are you uncertain of how to move forward? I know the feeling, and am sharing how to hold on to hope in a struggling marriage.

Over the next few months, my marriage went from bad to worse. The troubles that knocked at our door that morning seemed to only get worse as time went on. Not only did my marriage fall apart, but we lost friends, our church, and much more.

Why did God allow this to happen to me? I was doing everything right.

While this is a part of my story, it is not all of my story. Four years later I can look back to see how God has been at work in my marriage.

In the midst of the hurt, though, how do you hold on to hope? How do you rummage through the chaos and confusion to see hope? When someone has tossed a blanket of darkness over your life, how do you find hope?

Dear friend, that is exactly where faith comes in.

Our relationship with the Lord is not just for Sundays. It’s for the good days, the sunny days. It’s also for the dark days, the tough days, and for that awful Wednesday when the devil came knocking for my marriage.

In John 8:12, Jesus reminds us that He is the light of the world. So even when the darkness is very real, we can have hope because of our relationship with Jesus. He is our hope!

Today I’m sharing how to hold on to hope in a struggling marriage at Young Wives Club. I’m grateful to Hannah and Rosie at The Young Wives Club for inviting me to share on their site this week! Come join me at their blog to read this post.

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How to Hold On To Hope in a Struggling Marriage

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3 Truths for When Marriage is Hard

So many things have changed since that day. Some days I feel like my life is never really going to look the same, ever again. And if that’s where I focus, my story seems quite hopeless. So I choose to intentionally lift my eyes and remember that my help comes from the Lord who made heaven and earth. (Psalm 121)

That October morning dawned full of sunshine and full of hope. I looked out the window at the crisp, clear morning. It was less than ten minutes later, though, when the knock on the door changed everything.

My marriage of 14 years crumbled in front of my eyes. The unexpected truth came out and my life fell apart in that moment.

The truth is that marriage is hard sometimes. It's hard to stay hopeful in the struggle. Here are 3 truths for when marriage is hard.

 

 

I had to find a way to keep going, even though my marriage hit rock bottom. I had to find a way to sort through the mess and see the truth.

The truths that I’m sharing today were the truths that I fell back on when this mess started.

The opening lines of Isaiah 43 offered such hope for me.

“Do not fear, for I have redeemed you;
    I have summoned you by name; you are mine.
When you pass through the waters,
    I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers,
    they will not sweep over you.
When you walk through the fire,
    you will not be burned;
    the flames will not set you ablaze.
For I am the Lord your God,
    the Holy One of Israel, your Savior….
Isaiah 43:1b-3a 

The waters were deep, the river was wide, the fire was intense, just as they are for anyone who deals with a traumatic incident.

But God.

His promises in Isaiah brought comfort. He knew the path we had to travel and He did not let go of us.

Today I’m sharing 3 Truths For When Marriage Is Hard. 

Join me over at Lori’s blog for the rest of this post. I love her heart for ministry to women. She has a powerful testimony and a strong desire to see women come to understand their identity in Christ. You will be very encouraged as you take a look around her site!

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3 Truths for When Marriage is Hard

What truths do you cling to in your life, in your marriage? Please feel free to share them in the comments here or over at Lori’s blog.

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3 Reasons to Take Your Thoughts Captive in Your Marriage

He walked away in frustration, choosing silence rather than speaking from anger. I knew I hurt him with my words, but they just came pouring out of my mouth. I was hurting, and I wanted to be sure he knew that.

Unfortunately, lashing out at him did not help me feel better. As I watched his shoulders slump, I longed to take back my words. How could I have been so mean?

The root of the problem was not the words that I said. It started before that with some wayward thoughts. I allowed them to run rampant and they built up and overflowed in the form of some very hurtful words.

II Corinthians 10:5 reminds us that we have control over our thoughts. We have the power to stop those thoughts that should not take root in our hearts.

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

I should have paused; I should not have let my feelings boil over. I should have exercised some self-control before I decided to speak. Unfortunately, I didn’t do that and the results of my words were pretty damaging.

God used this exchange to speak to my heart about taking my thoughts captive.

3 Reasons to Take Your Thoughts Captive in Your Marriage

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There are many reasons to take your thoughts captive.

I’m sharing 3 of those reasons over at Fulfilling Your Vows. Come on over and read the post. Then take a look around the site; it’s an excellent resource for your marriage!

I knew my words hurt him, but they were not the root of the problem. My thoughts were. Here are 3 reasons to take your thoughts captive in your marriage.

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Encouragement for Wives in a Struggling Marriage

Any marriage-related post on this site came after the bottom fell out in my marriage as I didn’t write about marriage before then. It’s been a long, tough journey to get from that first day to this point.

This is not a story I ever wanted. In fact, I wouldn’t wish this story on anyone. The hurt, the fear, the anxiety has been almost unbearable at times. But I was determined to survive this journey, in whatever manner God would choose to lead me.

Hope for the Hurting Wife is a 30-day devotional that focuses on finding hope in your struggling marriage. From 2 authors who have lived the journey.

Many of you have expressed the same thing. You never imagined you’d be in a struggling marriage. Everything had been going so well, yet here you are. Your situation leaves you longing for hope, full of questions, and broken-hearted.

When my own journey through marital struggles started, I begged God to give me just one person who I could encourage on this journey. I knew that if I could share what I went through, it would give purpose to what I was dealing with.

God has gone above and beyond answering my prayer, giving me more than just one person to encourage. He has put people in my life who have encouraged me and helped me navigate this journey, and He has sent people who need encouragement as well. He has taken a story of pain and is using it to show His power of redemption.

One of the people who has been instrumental in encouraging me is Jen. She and I crossed paths in a blogging group. We grew as blogging buddies, as prayer warriors and friends. In late 2016, God placed an idea in our hearts to share some of our marriage struggles with others.

Hope for the Hurting Wife is a 30-day devotional that looks at the journey through a struggling marriage. It is a compilation of writings that Jen and I want to share with you. We have taken turns writing for each other’s blogs, mostly on the topic of marriage. We’ve both struggled in our marriages and we’re joining forces to offer a resource that we think is going to be beneficial to you. As wives who have experienced the hurt, we share from our own experiences of when marriage is hard. Jen and I are both committed to fighting for our marriages.

We take a look at topics such as communication, loving him in the tough times, the power of prayer, dealing with your emotions, support for times when you want to give up, recognizing progress, and seeing hope.

You’ll find encouragement and support for the real-life problems that arise when marriage becomes difficult. You’ll find hope for the journey of standing for your marriage, an understanding of the times when you pass through the deep waters of discouragement and fear, and you’ll learn that we aren’t perfect in our own fight for our marriages. We’re two women who share the hurt, but also the hope from drawing close to Jesus in this time. We want you to know that no matter what happens, God has a plan for your life.

It’s our desire that this book is a blessing to others who are in similar situations.

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18 Scriptures to Cling to When Standing For Your Marriage

Many of you are here because you are struggling in your marriage. You are seeking out people who understand the path you’re walking.

Today I have the privilege to share my friend, Beth’s, post with you. Beth has walked this path of standing for your marriage. She knows the journey we are on, and she is full of encouragement for those who make this stand.

She is the original leader of the Facebook group that we offer as a resource to you. God has restored her marriage and she has a heart to help others.

When you visit her blog, be sure to sign up for the marriage restoration letters she offers. You’ll find those in the sign up area on her page.

I’m excited to share this post with you, and I hope you’ll hop over to her blog after you read today’s post and download the printable that she’s sharing with you.

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For the wife who is suffering from the lies of the adversary, who bombards you with impossibilities and fears, untruths, anxious thoughts, and what ifs- here’s a little spiritual ammunition to battle the lies, and to bring back peace in your heart. 

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1- The damage is already done it’s too late for my marriage. 

*Isaiah 43:19 – I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.

2- I don’t think God can reach my husband. 

*2:Peter 3:9 – The Lord is patient not wanting anyone to perish but everyone to come to repentance. -ladies that means your husband too.

3- I don’t think I can do this. 

*Philippians 4:13 – I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. 

4- My husband is too far gone, he’ll never change his mind. 

*Mathew 19:26 – But Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

5- It’s all out of control. 

*Proverbs 19:21 – Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.

6- But I’m just so afraid that (insert something you fear) will happen. 

*Isaiah 41:10 – So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

7- What if he never loves me again? 

*Romans 5:8 – But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

*Your human spouse has his own issues to grapple with, that does not mean you are unlovable. Jesus died a horrid death for you for no other reason than his unfailing love for you. -That’s Love.

8- But I just don’t have the same feelings for my spouse anymore. 

*Proverbs 28:26 – He who trusts in his own heart is a fool.

*Jeremiah 17:9 – The heart is deceitful above all things.

9- I’m so anxious; I can’t do this. 

*Philippians 4:6-7 – Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

10- If God is so loving how could he allow this to happen to me?

*Romans 8:28 – And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

11- Doesn’t God want me to be happy?

*John 16:33 – Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.

*James 1:2-4 – Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

12- But this is taking way too long! I don’t know how long I can wait. 

*Galatians 6:9 – And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.

*Psalm 27:14 – Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD.

13- But this whole thing wasn’t even my fault! 

*Matthew 7:5 – First take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

14- But there is this other guy in my life that is making me feel so much better. 

*1 Peter 5:8 – Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. 

*The enemy sometimes even comes as your dreams in disguise, hoping to destroy your stand for your marriage!

15- My husband is so depressed and he’s pulled away from me. He refuses to get help and doesn’t seem to care about me anymore. 

*Ephesians 3:20-21 – Now to Him who is able to do above and beyond all that we ask or think according to the power that works in us–to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen.

16- I don’t have what it takes to stand.  

*Hebrews 13:21 – He will equip us with everything to do his will

17- Questioning God- Why me Lord?! 

*Isaiah 55:8 – “My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord . “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine.

18-What if my marriage does end and it’s never restored? 

*Jeremiah 29:11 – For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

*1 Corinthians 2:9 – However, as it is written: What no eye has seen, what no ear has heard, and what no human mind has conceived, are the things God has prepared for those who love him. 

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Beth has created way for you to have these images with you each day. You can download them and then print or save them to refer to as needed. 

Click the link below to download these Scriptures: 

18 Scriptures to Cling to When Standing for Your Marriage

 

Are you in a struggling marriage? Download these 18 Scriptures to cling to when standing for your marriage.

 

What Scriptures comfort you
as you are standing for your marriage?

 

Be sure to visit Beth’s blog for more encouragement and for the marriage restoration letters that she sends!

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Beth KellyBeth Kelly is a blogger and writer with a passion to serve those who are standing for their marriage. You can find her at her blog, on Facebook and on Pinterest.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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The 4-Word Prayer That Changed Me

Have you ever been in a situation where there was no way out? Any choice you made would bring pain in your life or in someone else’s life. It was a no-win situation, but that’s where I found myself, and it was terrifying.

The choices before me were to end my marriage, or to dig in and fight for it. While I’m a fighter by nature, I didn’t know if I could manage this fight. I tried to pray, I tried to ask for wisdom, but I could barely find the words.

You see, my marriage was up against some tough issues. Some of those issues were inter-personal, some were spiritual and some were legal. Everything that was happening was completely outside the limits of anything that I would consider a “tough marriage”. We faced life-altering decisions and I had no idea how to ask God to save our lives, our marriage, our family.

Please believe me when I say that I never wanted this story. The only way I could find my way forward was through spending time with the Lord. However, when I tried to pray, I had no idea where to start. I couldn’t form words that conveyed the depths of my feelings.

That’s when God put four words on my heart. These words became the simplest, but hardest, prayer for my marriage.

There was not a lot of fluff, there were no extra words. I’m not even sure what I was praying for when I prayed those words.

This became the 4-word prayer that changed me. 

I’m sharing the rest of this post at Fulfilling Your Vows. Come on over to find the prayer, and to hear how the prayer changed me.

My marriage was facing a crisis and there was no way out. No matter what I chose, there would be pain. This is the 4-word prayer that changed me.

 

 

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3 Reasons to Fiercely Protect Your Marriage

We all seem to go into our marriage excited to start a new life with our spouse. We probably attend pre-marital counseling together and talk through all the issues that newlyweds may face. We walk down the aisle to wedded bliss, but we may not be aware of the spiritual battles we’re likely to face.

When I first got married, it was easy to keep my marriage safe. We were newlyweds and spent a lot of time together. We talked a lot, communicated about issues that came up and genuinely worked to keep each other first. Ever so slowly, though, we saw friends start to struggle in their marriages. We saw marriages where divorce was imminent and we noticed problems creeping into our own marriage.

As I took stock of what was happening in my marriage and in marriages around me, I realized there were 3 reasons I wanted to protect my marriage.

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I began to change my battle plan – from arguing with my husband at times, to battling the real forces that were at work against my marriage. Don’t get me wrong – bad choices were made in our marriage, but I began to battle with the guidelines from Ephesians 6:10-17 rather than try to fight in my own strength.

A change in my tactics has not relieved me of the battle – I wish it did. Instead, though, it has taught me the value of fighting in the manner God intends.

Come with me over to Fulfilling Your Vows for the rest of the post. Read the 3 reasons to fiercely protect your marriage – and then share your own reasons!

My plan for marriage started with excitement and happiness. As time went on, I saw marriages crumble. These are 3 reasons to fiercely protect your marriage.

I’m excited to share that I am contributing at Fulfilling Your Vows. They offer practical encouragement for real-life marriage. Mike & Carlie run the site and they have been through many challenges in their marriage. If you peruse the site, you’ll appreciate their perspective and their honesty. I’ll be there once a month, but there will always be an intro post here to let you know to click over. 

 

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How to Overcome Regrets When Standing for Your Marriage

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Recently, I shared Ephesians 6:10-17, the passage about the armor of God, with some wonderful women. I was able to read through the passage, share a few thoughts and provide encouragement on the subject of spiritual warfare. The passage lingered with me, though, and I returned to reading it myself, wondering what I was searching for. As I read the words carefully, one small phrase jumped out at me. I’ve considered the phrase before, but it came to me as encouragement for those of you who wonder if you’ll have regrets in standing for your marriage.

In this type of situation, it can be hard to know what the future holds. We wonder what our lives will look like in five years, next year, even tomorrow. The “what ifs” are loud, undermining our resolve to stand firm.

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You’re probably pretty familiar with this passage in Ephesians 6. If you would like to read the passage, here’s a link to it. We’re looking specifically at verses 10-17.

The verse I want to really focus on is Ephesians 6:13.

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 

This is the verse that jumped out at me as I continued to look at this passage. I think it really holds the answer for those who are waiting on God to redeem their marriage. The particular phrase that I latched on to was, “…and after you have done everything, to stand.”

While we have no guarantees on how our marriage will turn out, we can have no regrets in our stand!

Look at these words and phrases from this passage:

  • …be strong…
  • …put on…
  • …can take your stand…
  • …put on…
  • …may be able to stand…
  • …have done everything…
  • …Stand firm…
  • …buckled…
  • …feet fitted…
  • …take up…
  • …you can extinguish…
  • …Take…

What do you see?

Faith In God 

This passage starts with a reminder to be strong in the Lord, and to put on the full armor of God. Paul doesn’t just say, “Go fight, and good luck!” Rather, he starts this section with a reminder of where our strength lies. In fact, if you count, you see that he reminds us twice, in eighteen words, in whom we have our faith.

Some trust in chariots and some in horses,
    but we trust in the name of the Lord our God. 
Psalm 20:7

Holding to our faith in God is not always easy, but our faith in an omnipotent God gives us boldness to face the right battle. So often, in messy marriages, we treat our spouse as the enemy. While we can justify feelings, we need to remember that our spouse is not actually our enemy.

Preparation for the Right Battle 

Circumstances in a struggling marriage can make us feel hurt, even angry. When you want to lash out at your spouse, though, remember that the armor of God is to be used for a spiritual battle.

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 
Ephesians 6:12

We can fight our spouse all we want, but the real battle is one we can’t see with our physical eyes. The pieces of armor are protective. Most of the armor that is listed is to protect your body from top to bottom. Why? Because a spiritual battle can cause a lot of damage. The enemy isn’t just going to attack your mind, or your heart. He’s going to make a full attack in an attempt to derail you.

For those in struggling marriages, consider how hurt you feel when your spouse says they’re leaving. How hard it can be to hear that a spouse has cheated on you. Those really break our hearts. But the devil doesn’t just leave it there, does he? No, he sends doubts (our minds), sometimes we can experience physical or mental distress, we might struggle financially – the possibilities are endless. That’s how he attacks – all out, no holds barred.

That’s why we need the full armor of God, as defense for ourselves. Along with that, we’re told to take up the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God. Why do we needs God’s Word? We need it to be able to combat the enemy. We need to be in the Word, to know and understand what God says.

Commitment 

Have you ever bundled up to go outside in winter? If you’re just running to grab something out of the car, you may not worry about too many layers. But if you plan to be shoveling or playing with the kids, you layer up because you know you’ll be outside a while. There are no shortcuts! You put on multiple layers, you get a hat, a scarf, gloves and boots. You don’t want to be cold.

There’s the same level of commitment in suiting up with the armor of God. You may not choose the full armor if you’re just praying for your spouse to have a good day. But when push comes to shove, when marriage is on the line, it is best to put on each piece of armor. To me, this says a couple of things.

First, it tells God that we recognize the seriousness of this battle. Second, we tell our heart  and mind that we are going into this battle prepared. Third, when we show up against the enemy, he sees that we do not come in our own power.

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…and after you have done everything, to stand.

Preparing for battle, with faith in the Lord and a commitment to His calling allows us to journey through this time of standing for our marriage. God doesn’t just send us in to the battle empty-handed, though. We have hope in Him, we have the knowledge from His Word, and we have the testimonies and examples from those who have gone before us.

I believe God often puts people in our paths who ahead of us in our journey. They cheer us on, sharing some of the “how to” from their journey. We are wise to listen to them, to seek them out for counsel and mentoring, to learn from their battles.

If your marriage ends in restoration, then praise God! We can thank Him for His redemptive work in your marriage.

If your marriage does not end in restoration, though, you can move forward in peace. You can overcome the regrets you may feel because you know that you have done everything. Everything! You’ve put on the full armor, you’ve taken up the sword of the Spirit and have spent time in God’s Word. You put your faith in God, you prepared for the right battle and you kept your commitment. You sought wise counsel and followed advice of trusted mentors.

The flip side of this, though, is that you don’t want to be wondering “what if” in five years, if your marriage has not ended in restoration. You don’t want to be questioning whether your quick devotional in the morning was enough. Maybe you’ll wish you would have taken your mentor’s advice. Perhaps you didn’t put on the helmet to protect your mind. There are many “what ifs” and you don’t want to be wondering about any of them.

Combat them right here, right now, by living out this passage today! 

If you’re looking for a more detailed study of the Armor of God, check out Priscilla Shirer’s Bible Study, The Armor of God.

 

Ephesians 6 lays out 3 ways that we can overcome any regrets we're feeling about standing for our marriages.

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3 Ways to Restore the Love in Your Marriage

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One thing I’ve found in ministering to women standing for their marriage is that we often misunderstand love. I’ve heard from women who talk about “not feeling in love,” and women who say, “He just doesn’t love me anymore.” The pressing question seems to be, “How will we grow old together when we don’t feel loved?”

Perhaps you married because you felt “in love” and assumed the feelings would last. But what happened after a few months, or maybe a year, when things started to change? He didn’t respond the same way any more, or you reverted to getting frustrated too easily. He forgot to take the trash out and you felt frustrated. You stopped speaking nicely to him and he got upset easily.

Where’s the love that was once there?

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None of us desire to live in a loveless marriage, but what can we do when all the feelings point to a lack of love? How can we find hope? How can we restore the love we once had?

These are questions I’ve struggled with inside of my own marriage. The answers have been elusive at times, depending on the season of our marriage. The reality, though, is that the answers have never changed – my response, my reaction has had to change.

While the answer can seem simplistic at times, I’ve realized this is an area of marriage that requires a lot of work. I’ve also had to remember that my feelings don’t necessarily tell the truth.

If you’re already married, chances are you’re already committed to giving it your all!

I’m exploring these issues as part of a series on Building a Flourishing Marriage.

There are 3 tips that we’re looking at:
1. Learn The Language
2. Learn How to Understand Love
3. Learn to Keep Fighting

Come join me at Alisa’s blog to read 3 tips to restore the love in your marriage.

Where's the love that was once there? If you've ever wondered this, read these 3 ways to restore the love in your marriage.

 

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31 Prayer Prompts for When Marriage is Hard

 

There are many prayer prompts out in social media – for your child, for your spouse, for yourself. I enjoy sharing them because it seems they’re a blessing to many people. As I thought about prayer prompts, I realized I’ve never shared a list of prompts here.

I’ve shared prayers for anxiety, and resources for when marriage is difficult. I’ve also shared access to a support group, encouragement while you wait for redemption, but not prayer prompts.

Why are prayer prompts helpful? In the day-to-day of life, we can get quite distracted. We can also get overwhelmed as we walk through struggles, like the times when marriage is hard. Prayer prompts give us something to focus on and to pray over. It’s a gentle reminder to keep praying, and a suggestion of what to pray for.

So today is the day for a list of 31 prayer prompts – enough for every month!

At the bottom of the post you have the option to download the prayer prompts to have them for personal use.

Is your marriage struggling? Try these 31 prayer prompts for when marriage is hard.

 

31 Prayer Prompts for When Marriage is Hard

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For Your Husband:

1.  For God to meet him where he’s at
2.  For a desire for a deeper relationship with God
3.  For Godly role models to speak into his life
4.  For a hedge of protection around his heart and mind
5.  For God to place you on his mind
6.  For God to remind him of his love for you
7.  For protection against the lures of the world
8.  For a realization of anything that is drawing him away from God and from you
9.  For favor at work
10. For provision of daily needs
11. For rest to combat the demands and stresses of life

For Yourself:

1.  For God to meet you where you’re at
2.  For a heart fully committed to God
3.  For Godly role models for you – personally and as a wife
4.  For a hedge of protection around your heart and mind
5.  For peace in the midst of the struggle 
6.  For a strong support system 
7.  For protection from temptation
8.  For strength to withstand anything that draws you away from God and your husband
9.  For opportunities to be a blessing to others
10. For strength to make changes and set boundaries as needed
11. For rest to combat the demands and stresses of life

For You Both as a Couple (whether you live together or apart):

1. For patience as you wait in this season of struggle
2. For grace as you make changes in your life
3. For better communication
4. For a willingness to learn to put each other first
5. For the ability to fight fairly
6. For kindness as you deal with each other
7. For strength to confess wrongdoing
8. For wisdom in decision-making
9. For forgiveness and a heart to continue to offer forgiveness to each other

 

Interested in downloading the prayer prompts? The image below is what you’ll receive when you download the file.

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31 Prayer Prompts for When Marriage is Hard

 

Is your marriage struggling? Try these 31 prayer prompts for when marriage is hard.

 

 

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