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Dear Weary Mom, Don’t Get Up – not this time

Dear Weary Mom,

Don’t get up.  Not this time. 

Dear Weary Mom, Don't Get Up - not this time

 

Juggling all that life throws at us is chaotic sometimes.  We meet ourselves coming and going at the door.  We spend time creating a schedule, watching it fill up, realizing we’d rather be doing other things.  We show up at activities tired and stressed, probably having mediated a sibling argument along the way.  It’s tough to keep our own hearts steady when all around us can seem so volatile.  But, dear weary mom….

I see you.  I can find you in a crowd.  You are my kindred spirit in the world of motherhood.

What would I say to you that might make any difference?  I’m not sure, really, except maybe that I am walking a path similar to the one you are walking.

I think about you when I drag myself out of bed each morning.  Somehow, I haven’t learned the fine art of getting to bed early enough on a regular basis.  As I quietly enjoy my coffee, I sit and read a short devotional, focusing on starting my day with a word from The One who truly knows our journey – yours and mine.  My strength can only come from Him.

I wonder how you are doing as I sometimes find myself feeling overwhelmed with the duties of motherhood – meals, laundry, schooling, clean-up, medicines, therapies, schedules.  I wonder if you are managing the day better than I am.  I wonder if you feel overwhelmed as you see another pile of dishes, or the growing mountain of laundry – wasn’t it just a molehill yesterday?  Are you tired of seemingly drawing a line in the sand, whether it’s to protect a child, or to stand against the influences that come into your home?

Do you get to the end of the day and feel completely spent, yet like you’ve really done nothing of value in that day?  Do you feel that, in the grand scheme of things, nothing you’re doing is making an impact?

Dear weary mom, you matter, your family matters.  Everything that you do to bloom and grow where you’re planted is honoring God’s plan for your life.  And I see you.

I see you drawing your line in the sand when something truly matters.  I know full well what it’s like to make a choice that truly makes a difference.  We have a child with special needs and before we decide on anything that will be a steadfast rule for him, we count the cost.  We think of when, and how, and how often, and how long we will need to draw our lines in the sand with regards to a rule.  We think through anything that may cause us to bend or break that rule, and how that might be perceived by him.  We try to be as flexible as we can, but sometimes life needs rules, and explaining that to a child with special needs can be so difficult.

As you draw your line in the sand, know that I am with you.  I will meet you at that line, and I will hold your hand.  We will wait and we will hold steadfast, together, knowing that God knows exactly where we are.

Dear Weary Mom, as I meet you at the line in the sand, and as we stand together for those tough decisions that truly matter, I don’t want you to be surprised if you get knocked down.  Maybe you feel that you’re down now.  You’ve stood up as many times as you can.  I know.  I really know.

Don’t stand up this time.  It’s okay.  You don’t have to get all the way up – just get to your knees.  Together we will pray.  We will remind God that these are all His blessings, but that we are unable, in our human strength, to manage them as we should.  We will pray for wisdom to know what to hold tightly to, for peace in the midst of storms, for unending love, for perseverance to face each moment.

Dear Weary Mom, if you can’t get up, stay down.  Stay on your knees and pray.  God will give us the strength we need to stand again.  For now, though, don’t get up.  Not this time. 

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  1. Such a beautiful post!

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    Rebekah Reply:

    Thank you! Thanks for stopping by!

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  2. So many beautiful things to reflect upon, Rebekah. I esp love this:

    As you draw your line in the sand, know that I am with you. I will meet you at that line, and I will hold your hand. We will wait and we will hold steadfast, together, knowing that God knows exactly where we are.

    And given your gentle mommy-ing, I so wish we lived by each other so e could not only communicate via email and blog comment, but face to face over coffee…..

    Thank you for the wonderful, practical advice and for linking at Memoir Monday!
    Chris C recently posted…Memoir Monday ~ Always Hope: The Soldier in the SnapshotMy Profile

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    Rebekah Reply:

    I would absolutely love to spend time over coffee. I appreciate so much that you open your blog each week for all of us – you let us step into a little bit of your soul and share our treasures there. Blessings, sweet friend!

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  3. Rebekah,

    You have no idea how much I needed your post today. Thank you!

    With Love,
    Barb

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    Rebekah Reply:

    Aww, sweet friend – I so appreciate you taking time to read this. I’ve been following your posts on FB and praying for you!

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  4. Beautiful. Thank you for this. I am going to share with Chosen Families moms…. Walking the journey with you,

    Shannon

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    Rebekah Reply:

    Thank you so much, Shannon! I appreciate that. It’s a journey, that’s for sure, but we’re on the greatest journey – the journey to Jesus!

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  5. Rebecca says:

    There are no human words to describe the depth of pain your post touched and ministered to. Thank you so much.

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    Rebekah Reply:

    I’m grateful for how God uses each of us to bless another. These posts are all prayed over before I publish them, trusting that God will use them in some way. Cling to Jesus! Much love!

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  6. Vonetta Carter says:

    Thank you for your transparency your words are real,relevant and sincere.Thank you for your ministry.May God use to to touch nations!!

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    Rebekah Reply:

    Thank you, Vonetta! I appreciate you!

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  7. Beautiful post. I think you captured very eloquently the way a lot of us moms feel. And it feels very good to not be alone in feeling like this. I like the thought of not getting up but staying on our knees to pray. I genuinely enjoyed this post and feel encouraged by it.
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    Rebekah Reply:

    Thanks so much, Jo Lynn. It’s wonderful to not be alone in this journey, isn’t it? Thank you for your kind words! Have a wonderful day!

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  8. wow, what a terrific post my friend. Beautifully expressed. Thank you for sharing at the hop xo
    Katherines Corner recently posted…Perfect Day For A Picnic and Winner AnnouncementMy Profile

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    Rebekah Reply:

    Thank you, Katherine! I appreciate you hosting the hop and taking time to connect with us all. Have a wonderful week!

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  9. I have those days so often. Giving myself permission to stay down and wait on the Lord to lift me up is humbling…but necessary. Sometimes it is nice to hear from another weary mom that it is okay. Thank you! Love and Blessings, Rachael @ Inking the Heart
    Rachael recently posted…You are LOVED: The EndMy Profile

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    Rebekah Reply:

    Another mom just commented about this and I wanted to share it with you. She said, “…sometimes it’s okay to just stay down, not out of defeat but out of surrender….” Yes, it’s humbling – right where God wants us, so that He can lift us up! I appreciate hearing that it’s ok, too – I think we’re often our own hardest critics! 🙂 Blessings!!

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  10. Thank you so much for this post! Being a stay-at-home mom to three children (3, 5, and 7) with one due in the next few weeks and a husband who works nights and sleeps most of the day, weary can seem to be an understatement. I needed the reminder that sometimes it’s okay to just stay down, not out of defeat but out of surrender, knowing that I can’t make it on this journey on my own.

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    Rebekah Reply:

    “Not out of defeat, but out of surrender…” Yes! That’s the perfect way to look at it. Praying for your family as you prepare for your new little arrival – praying for safety and health, and that this little one will bring you all exceeding joy!

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  11. Wow, reading this helped me today, thanks:-)

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    Rebekah Reply:

    Wonderful! I am always glad when God uses anything here, to bless someone else! Thanks, Sharon!

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  12. Hello sweet friend. I’ve never been a mom, so I can’t connect to this post on that level. I can, however, connect as a woman. We are busy, in-demand, needed, and all too often, over-committed. Sometimes the best thing we can do is simply be still and know….that He is God….and we are not. He has to remind me of that pretty often. Lovely Loft post, Becky!
    Leah Adams recently posted…The Loft – A Tuesday Link Up ~ PotluckMy Profile

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    Rebekah Reply:

    Over-committed…yes. This has been a year of un-committing for me. I’ve had to take a long, hard look at what I was doing and why, and then I cut a lot of it. It’s been a much-needed rest-in-God kind of year!

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  13. I have just had one of those wearying days. This was so good to read! Thank you.

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    Rebekah Reply:

    I’m sorry I’m so late in replying, but please know – I read your comment on the day you posted it and I was praying for you! It’s been a hectic week or so here, so this post is timely for me to revisit! Thanks, Karen!

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  14. It’s so good to know that we can always come to God, no matter how weary we are, knowing that he meets us where we are, and gives us strength to keep going on! What an encouragement!
    Sheila recently posted…It’s About ChoiceMy Profile

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    Rebekah Reply:

    Yes! That’s so true! I love my kids and I’m so glad for a heavenly Father who I can rely on when life is tough! Blessings, Sheila!

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  15. You are such a wonderful encourager Rebekah! No doubt this is a breath of fresh air for any weary mom landing here. Brings back memories… xo
    Kathy Schwanke recently posted…Mary: Her Name Means Bitter. But When God Comes, All The Bitter Is Transformed To BeautyMy Profile

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    Rebekah Reply:

    Thanks, Kathy! Being a mom is hard work so many times, but I know there will be days when they’re grown and out that I will really miss this. I do love my kids – and I LOVE that life with them keeps me leaning strong on Jesus!

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  16. Rebekah…you hit the heart of the weary ones who try to do it all only feel like failures for giving it there best but not quite attaining their goals because of so many commitments! Life is difficult for our weary young moms!

    Thanks for posting and bringing words of encouragement!
    Kimberly Nyborg recently posted…David, My Hero of Sorts…My Profile

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    Rebekah Reply:

    Thank you, Kimberly! This post is such a special one for me, as it was one God clearly showed me, and then gave me the words to share. Blessings!

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  17. These are such sweet words of encouragement. Yes, you’re so right. Prayer is exactly where we find our strength, where we need to be when we’re weary.
    Dawn recently posted…The Sign- a goodbye traditionMy Profile

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    Rebekah Reply:

    When I first wrote this post, I really thought I had a solid understanding of the need for prayer and support/encouragement as a mom. Every once in a while, when things are just not going as well as they could be, God brings me back to this post, fresh for me. Our days need to be wrapped in prayer, don’t they? Thank you for your kind words! Have a lovely weekend!

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  18. Thank you so much for this! My spirit…was down and I was/am…weary. Thank you so much for sharing this! Thank you God for using her. Bless her, Father and keep using her in this way in Jesus’ name! Amen! 🙂 big hug to you! Your words were like a hug and I embraced them and I cried and I just opened up to God…using your words as guidance. Thank you, sister…thank you.

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    Rebekah Reply:

    Thank you for taking time to let me know this was a blessing. Feedback here is always encouraging to me as I know that there are others on a similar journey. Blessings!

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