Have you ever hit a spot in your marriage where nothing seems to go right? Perhaps you’re never on the same page as your spouse, or the combination of kids, home, and work is overwhelming and you feel there’s simply not time to connect with your spouse. Have you considered that marriage isn’t really supposed to be like this? So have I.
I tend to focus on the overwhelming nature of each day, especially when life is difficult. It’s easy for me to go into a self-preservation mode, of sorts, making sure the urgent needs are met. Needs that I deem less important can wait for later. I tend to relegate connecting with my spouse to another task on my to-do list when life is overwhelming. In reality, it should be a priority, and a sweet moment to rest and regroup.
Can I tell you, though, that putting my spouse on my “to-do list” in these times has actually been more detrimental to my marriage? What happens with our lists? (Be honest!) We go through and complete the tasks that are easiest first, right? Perhaps your thinking goes sort of like mine: “My husband will be there later; I can work on connecting with him later.” Then, I shuffle him around on my list so I can complete easier, or more urgent tasks first.
It wasn’t too long ago that I was praying for my family just to stay together. Now I’m shuffling my husband on my to-do list? How quickly I can forget God’s goodness to me!
As I realized this was happening, I saw my need to intentionally choose to connect with my husband.
How can you intentionally connect when you always seem to be on different pages? I believe this has to be a conscious choice that we make, particularly on the tough days.
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