When I first got married, communication came easily and it seemed that my husband understood what my needs were. Of course we spent a lot of time together and that made it easy for him to see, know and understand those needs. When we settled into our home and started to manage life as a married couple, I began to feel that he didn’t understand my needs as well. We had bills to pay and a house to keep. We participated in church activities, and though we were together a lot, it wasn’t the same.
The more I felt misunderstood, the more frustrated I became. It didn’t take long for me to feel as though he shuffled me out of first place in his life (first place after God). I felt resentment build each time my needs went unnoticed, or unanswered. My husband was not a bad guy; he was simply trying to manage a family on top of his regular responsibilities. When pressed, he genuinely wanted to meet my needs; he just had a lot of other competing factors in his life. It took me a few years to understand my husband’s mentality in wanting to provide for his family, participate in church activities, be a good father and a great husband.Looking to improve communication in marriage? These are a few ways you can share your needs… Click To Tweet
As I understood his perspective, I learned to approach him differently when I truly needed him to hear and understand me. I want to share some of the ways I approached him in those times. None of these ideas are brilliant or new; you’ve heard of all of them. But sometimes it can be good to hear them again and try to put them into practice.
What are some of your tried and true ways to be sure your needs are heard?