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How to Survive in a Troubled Marriage

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“My marriage is in trouble; how will I survive?” 

This is the question I get asked the most.

And every time, I hear the pain, the fear, the worry behind those words.

Christmas is no different as the hurt runs deep.

So many of us long for the “Hallmark” moments, don’t we? Inside of 2 hours, there is a sweet meeting, a short romance, heartache, and then the perfect ending.

How do you have hope when nothing seems hopeful?

Here they are – the two ways that I survived a troubled marriage. 

Are you in a troubled marriage and looking for support? I've discovered that prayer is truly the best support for a troubled marriage. These resources help. #prayer #hope #hopeforthehurtingwife


Drawing near to God became a “must” as the world seemed to crumble around me.

Prayer is what got me through the long, hard nights.

And it’s what continues to keep me going as we work on restoring our marriage.

Friends, our relationship with the Lord needs to be the most important one. No matter what happens in our marriage, our relationship with God will be the one relationship that we always have. It’s the one we need to strengthen the most – but perhaps we don’t give it the time and attention it deserves? 

That’s why I’m so excited to share this news with you today. I hear from many of you who are looking for a strong resource to really dig in to praying for your spouse.

With Christmas upon us, and the new year just around the corner, the resources I’m sharing come at just the right time! Let this be your opportunity to fully commit to praying for your spouse, to jump into a renewed relationship with the Lord.

(And to the men who read my blog – I have something for you today as well!) 


Along with prayer, I committed to hope that God is who He says He is.

I decided to walk the road set before me, not knowing what the final outcome would be, but trusting that God would meet me in the journey.

Psalm 71:14 became a verse I held tightly to:

As for me, I will always have hope;
I will praise you more and more.

That was some truth that I held to, but also truth that I preached to my soul on the toughest days.

When we praise God, we are showing that we hope in Him. We are declaring the attributes we sing about – his holiness, his righteousness, his mercy.

As I am mostly on the other side of this whole situation, Psalm 71:15 is one that I’ve added to my collection of favorites. The two verses together read like this:

As for me, I will always have hope;
I will praise you more and more.
My mouth will tell of your righteous deeds,
of your saving acts all day long –
though I know not how to relate them all.

It’s true – the good things that God has done in my life are too numerous, too deep, to be able to share.

But Hope for the Hurting Wife is our attempt to do that.

And right now, you can get it on sale! I’ll share it in the resources below.


Prayer Books

I’ve shared various resources before, and I’ve shared resources from my dear friend, Kaylene. Her writings and resources on prayer and marriage are excellent!

Today I’m excited to share her 3 new books that are free, as of this writing, and will go up incrementally through the week.

I am passionate about these books – particularly the ones on praying for your spouse – because, friends, this truly is the only way through the troubled marriage situations we find ourselves in.

Are you in a troubled marriage and looking for support? I've discovered that prayer is truly the best support for a troubled marriage. These resources help.

Kaylene is offering all 3 of these books – what a blessing these would be for yourself, or for a friend who is struggling and needs the support these books offer.

You can click below to get any of the books.

40 Scripture Based Prayers to Pray Over Your Husband
Please note – if you have purchased “A Wife’s 40-day Fasting and Prayer Journal” by Kaylene Yoder, this book is the “just prayers” version of that book.

40 Scripture Based Prayers to Pray Over Your Wife
Gentlemen, grab this resource! I’m thrilled to have this to share with those of you who ask for resources!

40 Scripture Based Prayers to Pray Over Your Children
This is not the type of resource I usually share here, but along with the prayer books for your spouse, I wanted to share this one for those of you who are parents and looking for an excellent resource.

Hope for the Hurting Wife

Hope for the Hurting Wife
This book is our encouragement for wives who are struggling in a troubled marriage. It doesn’t matter if you’re newly married, or if you’ve been married for many years – you will find encouragement from this book. More than that, though, we share the hope we have with you – enough hope for you to borrow until you realize that you can have hope in your own life!

Jen and I faced troubled marriages for very different reasons. But we both dug in, asked the Lord for His will and His hope in our lives, and we held on tight as we walked through the dark valleys of our marriages.

And now we both cling to the truth of Psalm 71:14-15.

This book is on sale for the next week – starting at 99cents and working back up to its regular price by next Sunday, December 17th.

Marriage is hard work and sometimes we feel like we've just lost hope. Hope for the Hurting Wife offers hope and encouragement for struggling wives.

I pray that you’ll have an opportunity to grab these resources.

Prayer and hope have been my life line through the darkest days.

Work on your relationship with the Lord. Have hope that He is who He says He is, and meet with Him to pray, to talk, to seek His guidance, to ask Him to work in your life and in your spouse’s life.

These are truly the best gifts I can give to you this Christmas. And if you don’t have hope, you can borrow mine until you find your own!

Later this month I’ll be sharing one more resource that has the potential to make a tremendous impact in your life – I can’t wait for that! Thank you for being here – I so appreciate you!

Support for women who are standing for their marriage, trusting God to restore and redeem.

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1 thought on “How to Survive in a Troubled Marriage”

  • Oh, friend, I can’t tell you what a blessing it has been to literally witness you carry out the words of the Psalm you shared. Here you are, having survived “the for worse” of marriage, bravely telling other wives what God has done in your marriage. You share the hope that so many women need. Thank you for your obedience.
    Jen 🙂

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