The 4-Word Prayer That Changed Me

Have you ever been in a situation where there was no way out? Any choice you made would bring pain in your life or in someone else’s life. It was a no-win situation, but that’s where I found myself, and it was terrifying.

The choices before me were to end my marriage, or to dig in and fight for it. While I’m a fighter by nature, I didn’t know if I could manage this fight. I tried to pray, I tried to ask for wisdom, but I could barely find the words.

You see, my marriage was up against some tough issues. Some of those issues were inter-personal, some were spiritual and some were legal. Everything that was happening was completely outside the limits of anything that I would consider a “tough marriage”. We faced life-altering decisions and I had no idea how to ask God to save our lives, our marriage, our family.

Please believe me when I say that I never wanted this story. The only way I could find my way forward was through spending time with the Lord. However, when I tried to pray, I had no idea where to start. I couldn’t form words that conveyed the depths of my feelings.

That’s when God put four words on my heart. These words became the simplest, but hardest, prayer for my marriage.

There was not a lot of fluff, there were no extra words. I’m not even sure what I was praying for when I prayed those words.

This became the 4-word prayer that changed me. 

I’m sharing the rest of this post at Fulfilling Your Vows. Come on over to find the prayer, and to hear how the prayer changed me.

My marriage was facing a crisis and there was no way out. No matter what I chose, there would be pain. This is the 4-word prayer that changed me.



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  1. What a powerful prayer, Rebekah. Since I read the four words and the rest of your post over on Fulfilling Your Vows, I’ve found them running through my mind at various times. Which is a good thing, because I’m currently working hard to crowd out OTHER things running through my mind. 😉 And I love that you referred to this prayer as one that changed YOU first and foremost. Because we’ve all got something that needs changing, and doesn’t that usually (always?) start with changing us? Thank you for giving me a new tool in my “take every thought captive” arsenal. Stopping by from Salt & Light!
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  2. Thanks for making the decision to stick with your marriage even though it was difficult at the time. Blessings to you as you pursue Him and live in grace.
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  3. Thank-you Rebekah for your wonderful ministry! You have been an encouragement to me and many others. Because I so appreciate what you do I have nominated you for a Blogger Recognition Award. You can read my post about that here:
    Thank-you for using your pain to point others toward Christ and to bring glory to Him! Thank-you for being a fierce warrior in the fight for marriage! I appreciate you and your ministry!


  4. Thanks for writing about your marriage, even when you didn’t want to at one time. Your vulnerability will help others. Love this 4 word prayer. There is not one of us who does not need more grace and mercy, or need a reminder to give more grace and mercy.


  5. Thank you for writing this.
    I will join you in praying this.
    I’ve found over the past couple of years that the more simpler prayers sometimes are the most real and responded to.
    Thank you for the hope you shared here.

    God bless you
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  6. I know I can use more mercy and grace. Thank you for being open!


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