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Come Away With Me - part 2

Come Away With MeCome away with me! Yesterday, I shared about how our family needed some time to just be together in a relaxed environment, rather than the hustle and bustle that we’ve had going on here lately. I asked my husband to plan an outing for us, which is completely not in line with my personality, as I usually prefer doing anything related to planning. My idea was to get us all some time together, but also to be intentional about moving away from perfection and toward authenticity. Our grand adventure was a huge success - so much so that at the end of the day, I asked him if we could extend our down time for a second day. So, come away with me, through a second day of adventure and fun!

After arriving home from a wonderfully relaxing day together, we quickly made plans for a second day. We gave the kids a couple of options of things to do, and they agreed on the beach. We packed up things we needed after they went to bed, so we could get a moderately early start in the morning.

I love the colors you see at the beach - the clear, blue sky, the white waves as they build and break, the vivid umbrellas of every color imaginable, hats in all shades and sizes!

The kids enjoyed playing in the water, near the water, by the water, and digging holes in the sand. They started building sand castles, but they were too fascinated with the shells, the crabs near the water, body parts of crabs that they found in the sand and surf. Between horseshoe crabs on the first day and smaller varieties of crabs on the second day, we had a lot of opportunities to compare the different varieties we saw.

beach day 2The beach got a little warm when the sun came out from behind the clouds, so both boys decided to dig themselves a hole in the sand in hopes of staying a little cooler (I highlighted the guy on the left so you can be sure to see him - he couldn’t find himself too easily in the photo). ;-) It gave Tim and me a few minutes to sit and catch our breath since we knew the boys weren’t going anywhere for awhile.beach day 3

 

 

 

 

Despite the fact that the water was chilly, the kids really seemed to enjoy being in the water and jumping in the waves. Tim was brave and dared to enter the icy waves to hold a nervous hand and keep an eye on brave wave-jumpers!

beach dayWe all enjoyed the relaxed, low-key day at the beach. At one point we told the kids that we were going to get ready to leave in a little bit. Clearly they weren’t ready because the younger two started asking to go back to the water again! They stayed in for quite a while before deciding that they were cold and maybe even a little bit hungry.

After grabbing a bite to eat, we explored other parts of the state park, including some science centers. I’ll admit, the science centers are not my thing, but I loved watching our guy - he had some questions about some of the fish in the tanks, and neither Tim nor I knew the answer. I suggested he ask the lady who was working there, as she would probably know. He walked over to where she was, waited for her to finish a conversation with a couple of other people, and then when she turned to him, he said, “I have a question about some of the fish in the tanks,” and with that, they were off to check out the tanks and learn about the fish. I had to chuckle - after they were done looking at the fish, our son started asking about some of the turtle shells and horseshoe crab shells that were laying on a table. I could see the lady almost-visibly flinch each time he picked up a shell. She was great about the situation, though, and just carefully moved her hands to protect the shell in case he dropped it.

barnegat lightOur last stop of the day was the Barnegat Lighthouse. I guess I dozed on and off during the drive to the lighthouse, so when we arrived, I planned to stay in the van with one or two kids who weren’t interested in climbing the lighthouse. All 3 kids wanted to go, and we discussed the height, the fact that if they started the climb, they’d need to go all the way up. I got to continue resting in the van (Tim is so good to me!) while he climbed the lighthouse. When they got back to the van, I found out that one little Princess had not climbed any stairs - not up the lighthouse, or down the lighthouse. Yet when they got to the top, I was able to see her walking around. One awesome daddy carried a scared little girl who really wanted to go to the top, but was a little afraid to climb by herself. Up 217 stairs, and down 217 stairs. Love that man!!

And the time away, with just our family, really did help me to focus on loving them, and their individuality, rather than just completing the necessary tasks of parenting. But even more than that, the time away helped me to relax, to be able to do without a set plan, and thrive in the environment. I’m grateful for a husband who is opposite of me in so many ways, but uses his strengths to help me focus on living authentically (a very-real, not-always-pretty-but-always-pretty-awesome life), rather than living perfectly!

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Come Away With Me

I’ve been really craving some family time lately. With the end-of-year rush with school, and all the extras that go with that, I felt like I was seeing my family, but really only for the business side of things - the schoolwork, piano lessons and recital, crossing paths on the way to one meeting or another. So, I did what any wife might do, and asked my husband to plan an outing for our family. But that’s not the entirety of this story. See, I’m a very structured and well-planned person. My husband is very laid-back. This outing, truly and genuinely about family time, is also about me learning to let go and just go with the plan - especially when I don’t know all the details. So, come away with me as I take you through a journey of fun, family and faith!

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Our grand adventure began with getting on the road a little later than I had hoped. There were a few things we had to do before we started out, but we got going with a happy, rowdy set of kids. We were off to see lighthouses in Delaware! We were doing great until we hit some traffic and I began to stress about the amount of time it took to get to where we were headed. I may have pulled out the map a few times to point out how far we still had to go. BUT - we got there. A little later than I hoped, but we arrived at Fenwick Island Light, at the Delaware/Maryland border. The sun was out and it was a gorgeous lighthouse! Tim loves lighthouses, and that’s rubbed off onto all of us.

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From there, we headed on to the next light - not a lighthouse, but a lightship! Apparently there are not too many lightships that you can actually tour, so we were all looking forward to this! We stopped for some lunch and ice cream on the way to the ship - that always makes everyone a little happier! Aboard the ship, we had THE BEST tour guide! Fortunately, our tour consisted of just our family, so we were able to move around a little more freely than if we had others in our group. The tour guide was patient with our kids, he answered their questions, he asked them questions based on what they seemed interested in, and he made the history of the ship quite fun! The ship was built in 1938 and there were some amazing historical artifacts including Time magazines from 1941, and a World War II newspaper. The stove in the kitchen was original to the ship and there were pictures of what the ship looked like before some major restoration took place. The ship sat in the Delaware Bay for 2 years at a time, with a crew of no more than 14, including the officers. We learned so many fun facts about this ship!

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As the day went along, and as we were all having fun together, I began to realize that this business of letting go and trusting someone else with the plan was going well. It was still hard for me, but the kids were happy, the sun was shining, and we were having a great time together! My favorite moment on the ship was when I got a gentle nudge & a few seconds later there was this picture. Love!

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After time aboard the ship, we took some time to run around the playground and the area near the ship. The kids used the time to burn off some energy and we enjoyed hearing them in a wide-open space, rather than in the confines of our van. I was still thinking about the time, the schedule and when we needed to move on, but listening to the laughter, standing in the cool shade of some trees with my husband, and enjoying the beautiful weather were winning out! The kids wanted a picture on this little boat and so we were happy to oblige. I spent about 2 minutes trying to get them together for a nice, posed picture. You know - something perfect. What we got, though, was so much better than perfect - we got authentic and I will take authentic over perfect any day! I love the details of this picture - our older son is lounging about, quite relaxed and content with life. He’s making his own space in the world and is comfortable there! Our daughter is on the edge, dangling her feet in some adventure, while keeping securely planted in the safety of life. Our younger son? Well, he is intentionally pointing forward, yet looking backward. I asked him more than once if he wanted to look and point in the same direction. Nope! This was the pose he intended. And in his mind, I’m sure it symbolizes something amazing; I just don’t know what that is. I could venture some guesses, though. Maybe he’s indicating that he cannot see the way ahead, unless he is learning from what is in his past. Or maybe he is trying to tell me that the best we can do is plant our feet, aim ahead, and keep an eye out for those around us. Truthfully, I don’t know, but I love that they all had aspects of their own personality evident in this picture!

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We ended the day with a drive to see the Delaware Breakwater Lighthouse. We got to walk on the beach, which the kids loved, we saw some wildlife and got to talk to some of the staff who monitor the wildlife. The lighthouse was gorgeous in the late afternoon sun, and being perfect would mean I’d be posting that picture here. But often, love and authenticity are even better than perfection, and so rather than post the lighthouse picture, which was the point of this part of the outing, I’m going to post the picture which ended up being the best part of this outing!

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When I let go, and stopped looking for perfection in myself and in everyone else, I had a really great time! Our family needed some fun, leisurely time together, and we achieved that goal. Special thanks to my husband, who planned our grand adventure! And because of his ability to let go, to be laid back, to go with the flow, he was open to Day 2 of our adventure! Join me again tomorrow, and come away with me for more of this adventure!

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Hello, My Name Is

Hello, My Name Is ______,
Perfection.

Making life perfect for everyone.
Making it all fit together.
Holding onto perfect because anything less is scary.

And because of all that, I am exhausted.

Rather than being open-handed and open-hearted, I am tight-fisted and hard-hearted.
I cannot let God take things out of my hands in order to replace them with what He has for me,
because He won’t pry my fingers open.

He will wait until I’m ready to be open-handed and open-hearted.

Because God is loving like that. He will wait for us, never force us.

When you hold things too tightly, though, sometimes they shatter.
And then sometimes life seems broken.
And we aren’t sure what we should do, where we should go.

And God waits, lovingly.

And so I am open-handed, and open-hearted, offering my shattered perfection.
Imperfection.

A loving God takes my shattered perfection, transforms it for His good.

And so,

Hello, My Name Is -

Made Whole.

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Blessings in Education

roseThe end of the school year is always a time of mixed emotions for me. On one hand, I’m so happy to be nearly done with school and have another year under our belts. On the other hand, it’s a time of “g00d-bye” and “see you later” to some of my greatest blessings in education.

We homeschool, sort of, and we send our kids to school, sort of. We use an online charter school that is an alternative to our local neighborhood public school. This option works great for us in allowing the kids to work at their own pace, but also allowing someone else to keep all the school records. I live in a state that is not particularly homeschool-friendly, so this online charter school was the best choice for me. In our form of schooling, I am the learning coach - I am the hands-on teacher, the 1:1 resource for each of my children. However, each of my kids has a head teacher. (I must pause here to say that with our child who has special needs, having a head teacher from whom to request resources and ideas, is such a help!)

Education is so important to me. My parents valued education and that made a tremendous difference in my life. I want the same - and more - for our children. So when my oldest son came home from the local Christian school one day, in 2nd grade, to tell me how bored he was, I decided to listen to him and look at options. That is how we arrived to this particular charter school.

srmhMy daughter is at the end of 1st grade. What sweet beauty and innocence she brings to the educational process - the world is unfolding before her and reading, especially, is enabling her to explore beyond her wildest dreams! Her teacher is everything you would imagine a first-grade teacher to be: kind, gentle, compassionate, with the ability to share even more of the world with her students. In her gentle way, she has charmed my daughter into a greater love of learning through the online classes, individual emails and occasional phone conversations.

EDHMy younger son is about to complete 2nd grade. He is the our child with special needs. I remember emailing his teacher at the beginning of the year, saying that we highly value education in our home, and that we were trusting her to come alongside in our journey and help our son on his educational journey. She has been the perfect teacher for him this year! She seems to innately know when to push, just a little more, and when to back off and let him be. She asks questions designed to draw him out when he seems withdrawn, and has a loving way of reigning him in when some work needs to be accomplished.

ITHMy oldest son is finishing his first year of middle school. He has a homeroom teacher, who is also his Language Arts teacher, and 3 other teachers for the other core courses (Math, Science and History). I’ve had a little less interaction with all of them, as schedules are different in middle school, but I’ve exchanged emails with them all, and have talked, in person or on the phone, with all of them.

At the beginning of the year, we were at a school-sponsored outing, talking with some of the staff who had our oldest son in sixth grade. One teacher was telling me about a program called Eighth Grade Scholars. The program takes students who are excelling in seventh grade and gives them the opportunity to skip 8th grade, and enter 9th grade a year early. My son was intrigued with this, and so was I. As academics seems to be his niche, this program seemed like it might be a good fit!

We went through all of the necessary steps to apply for the Eighth Grade Scholars program - he carried grades of 95% or better, all year. ALL school year. In every subject. Some of those grades came easily, others he had to really work for. He applied for, and was accepted into, the National Junior Honor Society. He completed the application form, which included listing all of his community service and leadership roles for the past couple of years. I don’t know about you, but at 12 years old, we had to really think about what those roles looked like in his life. But sure enough, when we looked for leadership and community service, even at 12 years old, we were surprised by how much we found. These won’t necessarily look the same for kids as for adults, but don’t discount the many things that kids do - raking leaves for a neighbor, helping at Vacation Bible School, things like that. That’s where their leadership and service qualities begin, and start to be noticed.

On Tuesday we received word that our son was accepted into the Scholars program - HOORAY! With that acceptance, I sent a short email to his teachers, thanking them for their time and effort to make his learning enjoyable and rewarding. I thanked them for partnering with us, for working with him to keep his grades high, for inspiring him to achieve even more! I included a short quote from “Oh, The Places You’ll Go” by Dr. Seuss, because I love that poem!

I got several replies to that email, all applauding our son’s efforts and our family’s efforts to keep education a priority. One teacher replied that his skipping 8th grade is bittersweet for her, as she won’t have him for next year’s classes. But she picked a line out of the Dr. Seuss poem for him, too - “Kid, you’ll move mountains!”

Their teachers are my greatest asset in making sure they have every advantage, educationally. As we get to the end of the year, consider what our teachers do - for our own kids, and for so many others. The news has been full of teachers who go above and beyond, even willing to put their own lives in danger in hopes of protecting their students. Most teachers really are that amazing! And while we all give gifts, cards and good wishes, be sure to include a sincere, heartfelt thank you!

 

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Dear Weary Mom {Come Away}

Dear Weary Mom,

Sometimes the best thing that we can do is walk away, take a break. I know that at the end of the school year, this doesn’t seem a wise option. And until recently, I would have agreed with you. But on a nice day, when everyone is tired of the routine, the best thing might just be to ditch your plan, and be spontaneous. So dear friend, please – come away with me.

Come Away

Come to a place with wide open fields, green as far as the eye can see. If you pause and listen, really listen, you may hear a bit of history in the background. You might hear the voices of wise men, planning battle tactics to protect the union. You may look around and realize that your young man, still growing, would be a part of this regimen if you lived in a different time.

The winds blow freely and the grasses wave gently in the breeze. Each direction that you look tells a different story – vast empty fields in one direction where all the trees were cut down for provisions for the soldiers. In the other direction, thick woods full of large, old trees, providing protection.

flagIn the center of it all, the flag - the sign of liberty and freedom. As citizens we value our freedom, but as battle-weary moms, that flag is a reminder that we, too, can stand. And that we can keep standing when the winds of life blow against us. What amazes me about the flag is that the harder the wind blows, the straighter the flag flies. When the winds are calm, the flag can rest, but when the winds pick up, the flag stands tall.

It’s the same for us, moms. When the winds of life blow, we go to work to stand stronger. We stand strong to protect our family.

Sometimes all we need, all we really need, is to let go of our plan, and to jump into the beauty just outside our door. Watch the children run, listen to the laughter and the conversations that they have. Watch them engage in their new surroundings, in bold new ways.

Dear Weary Mom, I would encourage you to do that - to stop, to find a beautiful spot, and to rest. Take your children - enjoy spending time with them in a new and different place. Stop and take note of all that creation can remind us about - beauty, fortitude, protection, strength.

 

Where is your favorite get-away spot when you need to set aside the schedule and the routine and just live life?
This post and these images are from our family’s recent outing to Valley Forge National Park.

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