You Have to Tell Him

I hear you’ve been having those same feelings again - the fear, the insecurities, the frustration. Me, too. And does your husband walk around with what seems like very little regard for your feelings? Mine, too. I think he should be expressing more care and concern a lot of the time - after all, we’re married and he knows my feelings.

I had a situation recently that served as a great reminder for me.

Come close: Just because you’re married does not mean he knows your feelings. He may know of them, but he may not realize they are ongoing. You have to tell him how you’re feeling - you have to share those fears, insecurities and frustrations with him.

I was struggling with my own fears and insecurities recently. I had shared them with my husband, and because they were ongoing, at least from my perspective, I figured that he still knew and understood my feelings. I presumed that his lack of acknowledgement of them meant a disinterest in dealing with them.

So along with my fear and insecurity, I let my frustration and anger toward him grow for a little while.

One Saturday night, I went to bed a little later than usual. Ever so gently, my husband asked what was wrong. I started by saying nothing was wrong - I was just tired. He didn’t buy it.

And that’s when I told him….

Please join me at Christian Wife University to find out what I told him, and how he responded.