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Can We Be Real? Part 4

real 2This is the final post in the “Can We Be Real?” series. The first post was About Me, because you don’t want to take a journey with people you don’t know, right? There were some great comments on that post! The second post in this series was about Craving Real Friendships - as in, authentic relationships. The third post, titled Perfectly Imperfect, dealt with our real need for a real Jesus. And this week, I want to talk about a real relationship with Jesus.

For me, I know that I get hung up on “the right way” to have a relationship with Jesus. You hear people talking about first thing in the morning, or how long you are spending in devotions or prayer.

Can We Be Real? Life can be tough. We are often lacking sleep, on the go taking our kids to school or homeschooling them, running children to and from appointments, keeping up with the housework, and the many other tasks that find their way across our path. God knows all of that. He knows the families we have, the jobs we’re in, the children we have, the time and attention they require. He knows the activities we are involved in, the people we help, the chores we do. He knows ALL of that. And He isn’t trying to add to our to-do list. He wants to fill our hearts so that we can be about the work that is ours.

Maybe our perspective is askew. I know for me - being real here - some days are overwhelming and it’s hard to sit and read through various passages. You probably understand that feeling, too. On those days, I don’t put away my Bible and say, “Never mind, this is too hard.” Rather, I pull out my Bible, jot down a favorite verse, one that easily comes to mind, and I meditate on that throughout the day. I find I often get just as much from a day spent meditating on one verse, as I do from reading an entire passage on another day. One of my favorites:

To him who is able to keep you from stumbling and to present you before his glorious presence without fault and with great joy—to the only God our Savior be glory, majesty, power and authority, through Jesus Christ our Lord, before all ages, now and forevermore! Amen.

In keeping it real here, this post was supposed to go out yesterday, Thursday. Unfortunately, our son had some real struggles this week and I wasn’t able to get back to this. I thought about this post because I knew it was due. I considered it as I poured out my frustration to God - frustration that life can be so difficult for my son who struggles with communication issues, among other things. I considered this post because I knew I wanted to tell you that a real relationship with God is not just about spending time reading His word and listening to what He has to say to you. It’s also about being real with Him.

When things started to go wrong for my son on Wednesday, I began talking to God about how much the whole situation frustrated me. I wanted things to be easier for my son - for all the kids who struggle.

And that’s an honest part of a relationship - getting to voice your thoughts and feelings. Do you know it’s okay to do the same with God? Do you know it’s all right to tell him your problems, your frustrations and the things you’re struggling with? Do you know that it’s okay to be REAL with God? It is. After all, He created us. He knows all about us. And He knows how we’re feeling. He didn’t just create us and then walk away and forget how He made us. He is very aware of how we feel.

And while having a regular time of hearing from God is a very good thing, I think we sometimes think we need to have a “perfect” relationship with Him because He is God. And when that doesn’t happen, it can leave us feeling more defeated than anything else.

What if we dared to have a real relationship with God? What if, rather than measuring ourselves by how much we read in one sitting, or how long we pray, we focused more on making sure we spend time being real with God. And that can mean different things to different people. Maybe for one person, it means meditating on a verse rather than feeling the need to read through a certain number of chapters each day. Maybe for another it means to be bold and to be open about how we are feeling, and pour that out to God. For another, maybe it could mean time spent quietly, listening to what God has to say. As we do that, as we spend real time with God, He will speak to our hearts and encourage us. As we do that, we’ll find we’re naturally drawn to wanting more of that time with Him. As we are faithful in being real and showing up in the relationship with God, He will be faithful in meeting us where we are and helping us to grow in our relationship with Him.

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Can We Be Real? - Perfectly Imperfect

real 2Perfectly Imperfect. What does that conjure up in your mind? Honestly, I think we would all have a different answer. For me, though, it conjures up the memory of a conversation, rather than an image.

It goes back to what we talked about yesterday in Minivan Theology – God will show up in the everyday areas of our lives if we are open to His presence. A week or so ago, we were headed to or from therapy again, and my son started asking questions:

So we’re created in God’s image, right?
Yes.
So that means He created us perfectly – just the way He wants us.
Yes!
But He created us to need Jesus, didn’t He?
Yes…
So we aren’t actually perfect, are we?
No, we’re not. We need Jesus to save us from our sins.
So we’re created perfectly…
Yes…
But we need Jesus so that means we’re imperfect.
I think you’re right.
So – we’re ‘perfectly imperfect!’ Perfect, because God created us and He doesn’t mess up. Imperfect because we need Jesus and can’t get to heaven on our own. Perfectly imperfect.

That really got me to thinking – what if we truly viewed ourselves as perfectly imperfect? What if we treated ourselves as though we were created by a holy God, who knew exactly what He was doing when He gave us our hair color, eye color, our height, our physical characteristics.

But let’s not forget about our need for Jesus – the longing in our heart that only He can fill. How amazing to consider that God sent Jesus to take our place, to transform our spiritual imperfection so that someday we can be in a perfect heaven with Him!

When I consider that God is willing to transform our spiritual imperfection, through the gift of His Son – that the price has already been paid and we only need to accept the free gift – it gives my life great value. I was bought with a price, a very heavy price. I don’t know that I would be willing to sacrifice one of my children for someone else to be saved.

Romans 5:8 -
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this:
While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

While we were still sinners…while we were still in our spiritual imperfection. He didn’t wait for us to get cleaned up, to get our lives together, to work to become holy. His Son paid the price, years ago, before we were even born. And He waits for us – imperfect and all – to come to Him.

That means that on our messy days when we’re running late, when the syrup gets spilled and there are dishes left in the sink and we aren’t sure if the dog got fed or not, and we’re pretty sure that we’re in over our heads with this parenting thing – God perfectly loves our imperfect mess. He doesn’t view us as the imperfection that lingers on the kitchen counter, or find us beautiful based on if we are well-attired and looking perfect. He sees us as the gift we are, the precious gift that He paid for so dearly, the perfectly imperfect life that we are!

 

You can catch up on the first two posts in this series here:
Part 1 - Getting to Know Me
Part 2 - Craving Real Friendships

 

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Weekend Wrap-Up {for April 7-13}

Welcome to the weekend wrap-up! I hope you have some fun and some rest scheduled into your weekend! We have kind of a quiet weekend going on here, but I’m glad for that. Next week our middle guy starts 2 weeks of Occupational Therapy, where we’ll take him Monday-Friday for two hours/day, in addition to his regular therapy (and of course, in addition to regular life). It will be a lot - it always is - but it gets a little easier as he is a little older and more mature each time.

This post will provide you with the links from this week. As I’m getting this blog up and running, it’s beginning to look like my “blogging week” is Thursday - Monday, rather than the traditional Monday - Friday. Last week I linked up the posts that I’d written since starting the blog. This week there won’t be as many posts to link up, because of my “blogging week” being a little backwards. I’m working on more content for through the week, but for right now, I’m happy to just have some consistency in getting posts out on a pretty regular basis.

This week I added a new, small feature - the Sunday Son-shine. This will be a place for favorite verses to read and meditate on through the week ahead. I would love if you’d add some of your favorites in the comments - it’s always nice to know what is blessing someone else!

On Monday, I shared Part 2 in the series of 5 Things to Know about the Mother of a Child with Autism. This week’s post dealt with the conflicting feelings of grief and hope - how both feelings are very real and co-exist but can have a vastly different impact on our approach to raising a child with special needs. It’s important to sit and live with both feelings, but how hope can propel us onward.

On Tuesday I shared a few of my favorite pins (like this one and also this one) over at the Facebook page, and an inspirational pep talk video that passed through my personal Facebook news feed a few weeks back. The pep talk video is definitely worth viewing!

{And a special thank you to Aadel at HomeschoolBlogging.com for the tip on how to find the link to *just one* status update.
In case you’re looking for that information to use on your page,
click the Homeschoolblogging.com link up above and it will take you right to that information!
Thank you, Aadel!}

I took a short break on Wednesday because life is real - my younger son had therapy, my older son had state standardized testing in the afternoon and the kids had their mid-week church program in the evening.

Thursday saw Part 2 in the Can We Be Real? series, where I shared how I crave the small group setting for discussion and really getting to know people. I also shared of my feelings about shoes, and my slipper story - all in the name of keeping it real!

On Friday I shared a post about Choosing the Priorities. This post was a nightmare to put together - one technical glitch after another - but it finally got finished. It’s hard to know how to juggle all that we find on our to-do list, but I shared the way to be certain that you can get everything done (and keep your sanity!) so be sure to check out that post. Another mom has left some timely thoughts in a comment and I really appreciated what she shared.

And the humor of the week - we were at the Christian bookstore one day after dropping my oldest son off for testing. My daughter walked around the corner and spotted this book. They could have placed the sticker anywhere on the book, but chose to place it in that exact spot. (By the way, I am not giving any recommendations about the book, I have not read it. I’ve only seen the cover as presented here.) And while I definitely see the humor in this, it raises the question for me - what would I pay for Jesus? I know there are so many around the world who would love to have a Bible of their own, or even a partial Bible. Just a great reminder that it’s a blessing to have a Bible, to be able to buy a Bible. I’m thankful for that!

Have a great weekend and check back tomorrow for some Bible verses to think on through the week. Also, I’d love to see you at the various social media sites - see the top of the page for where you can find me. The Facebook “like” link is over on the right hand side - I would love to have you join us!

Blessings!

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Can We Be Real? Part 2

Can We Be Real? Part 2 - Craving Real Friendships

real 2Do you have a lot of friends, or just a few? Do you thrive on hanging out with all the friends, or having coffee with just a few? How about those friends who are in it for the nitty-gritty of life - do you have a lot of those friends or is that a smaller group?

I genuinely enjoy all my friends, and I love the opportunities to spend time with everyone! But I’ve noticed that I, personally, prefer just a few friends for the “nitty-gritty” of life - for letting down my guard and being real, for forming solid friendships.

I crave those moments to be the real me, with just a small group of friends. Here’s an example - a rough one, but still, an example. I don’t really prefer shoes, but it’s socially acceptable to show up to a church small group wearing *something* on your feet…unfortunately. So I try to comply. But in “real me” fashion, I found a way around the shoe thing in the winter. I chose to wear slippers as often as possible. I wouldn’t do that if I was going to an all-church get-together, but I could do that with our small group - ones with whom we can be real.

For me, the large group activities are wonderful, and so much fun - baby or wedding showers, parties, things like that. I crave the smaller social activities, though, to be able to be real - whether I want to wear slippers, or if things are going well and we want to share good news with friends, or if we’re struggling through some issues and need people to pray with us.

In being a friend to others, I find that the smaller settings - whether it’s coffee with friends, a meeting at church, or time at the playground with friends and their kids - give me a great opportunity to get to know more about people. I would prefer having in-depth conversations with a few friends, rather than making small talk in a large group.

walking togetherFor a long time, we struggled with the concept of small groups at our church because it was so difficult for us to attend with our son’s special needs. A few months ago, a group was starting that would meet at the church. This seemed ideal because our son was familiar with the surroundings, liked the others who would be there, knew the general rules, and would hopefully cope. As our church has been experiencing some extreme growth, we’ve been so blessed to hook into a small group where we can form solid friendships. It’s true, as I’ve been learning in various meetings, that the church needs to grow smaller as it grows larger. We’ve been blessed with a great group of friends at our small group.

It seems pretty obvious, but I think about the example Jesus gave us. He was genuinely interested in everyone, but had his group of 12 disciples that were his close friends. How about you - because I know everyone isn’t the same as me - do you crave the smaller groups or do you thrive on larger get-togethers? Both definitely have their place, but I certainly enjoy the opportunity to spend time with smaller groups of friends.

 

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Can We Be Real?

Can We Be Real? Part 1 - Getting to Know the Real Me real 2

Most of you, my readers here, are relatively new to the blog and as I start this new adventure, it seems appropriate to tell you who I am. After all, you don’t take a journey with a stranger, do you?

I am a firstborn daughter and when I was younger, my parents were missionaries in West Africa. We were there from the time I was about ten months old until I was a little over four years old. I have very few memories of that because I was so young. I’m told I spoke bits and pieces of several different languages – none of them stuck, except English. At least that one stuck! ;-)

I’m a sister. My brother was born when I was a little over five years old. We weren’t real close growing up, because of our age difference, but it turns out he’s a pretty cool guy!

I’m a wife and that is more of a blessing every day. We don’t have it all together, but we make a great team! He makes some great coffee to start my day and encourages me to follow my dreams.

I’m a mom and our kids are certainly three of my greatest blessings! Our kids are – as of this writing – 12, 8, and 6, but will soon be 13, 9, and closer to 7. Two boys and a girl. And they keep us hopping, but I love it!

I’m a homeschooling mom. I’m a teacher by trade, and I worked as a special education teacher for a few years before we had our own kids. That has come in handy as our middle guy has been diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome, on the Autism Spectrum.

I’m a friend and I’m convinced that I’ve been blessed with some of the greatest friendships. My friends are not all local to where I live, and some I’ve never met but know through the common bonds of special needs, or homeschooling, thanks to social media. We’ve been blessed with a wonderful group of friends at small group and the investment in each other’s lives is a blessing!

A few other facts about me – I play the piano at our church sometimes, I enjoy knitting and reading, I dislike shoes and would rather be barefoot or wearing slippers or flip flops. I don’t like weather that’s too hot or too cold.

I like to cause a little trouble now and again – nothing major, just enough to keep people on their toes. I’ve been almost-banned from sitting next to a particular friend at small group. (Apparently our giggling can be a little disruptive.) ;-) I prefer spending time in smaller, intimate groups rather than larger settings.

I don’t mind tea, but I love coffee! I prefer dark chocolate candy rather than milk chocolate. My overall favorite color is green, but I have favorite colors in each season as well. My favorite holiday is Thanksgiving. I watch “It’s A Wonderful Life” every Christmas season – at least twice!

I don’t keep a perfect home, but we’re genuinely happy together. I can’t even always carry off the appearance of a perfect family, but I’m learning that being real is better than being perfect. I can’t make everything run as smoothly as I’d like, or be as perfectly organized as I’d like to be. But I’m learning that perfection isn’t what I thought it would be – it’s more frustrating than energizing. It’s more life-draining than life-giving. I want to be a source of life to my family, not frustration, so I’m learning to let go of perfectionism and embrace the reality. There’s much more joy that way!

If you’d like, please feel free to leave a comment with a couple things about who you are. I love getting to know people a little better! I’ll share two more facts – both will seem random - about myself, because, after all, we’re wanting to be real, right?
1. My birthday is this month – and so is my first son’s. We share a birthday. He was born on my 25th birthday. Look for a special birthday post on Monday, April 22nd!
2. I have a small, red birthmark on the top of my head.

See? Random, but real!

Other topics we’ll be covering in the “Can We Be Real?” series will probably include:
*Craving Real Friendships
*Perfectly Imperfect
*A Real Relationship With God

Stop back next Thursday for more in this series.

 

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