Archives for September 2017

Finding Hope for Marriage and Motherhood

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There are times in life when you find your people. They are the ones who understand your struggle and continue to encourage you in your journey. They are the ones who offer hope in the times of darkness, and encourage you to keep pressing on. Ruthie Gray is one of my people. She is strong in faith and encouragement, but she also appreciates a really good laugh in the middle of an ordinary day.

She reached out to me with some very encouraging and hopeful words for my marriage at a time when I was struggling. I remember thinking, “Wow, there really are people who understand that marriage can be messy.” In fact, some of you may be here on Ruthie’s recommendation as she shares this site as a resource for women who struggle with their marriage.

Ruthie serves as a mentor to other moms, sharing valuable insight that she learned along her parenting journey. From raising strong-willed children to dealing with anger as a mom, she has faced many of the frustrations we all encounter in parenting. She and her husband have raised four children and now have the joy of grandchildren in their family. She helps moms find their way in parenting, but also in a relationship with God.

Ruthie’s ministry also has a strong marriage component to it, because many of us who are moms are also wives. We’re learning the necessity of a strong relationship with our spouse in order to provide stability for our children. But how do you do that when your marriage feels unsteady and you feel fresh out of hope?

My husband and I have three children and when things fell apart in our relationship, it was so hard to get up and help the kids. All I wanted to do was stay in bed, but they continued to need food, help with schoolwork, rides to therapy and piano lessons, so I had to function in some capacity.

How do you find the strength to manage your kids’ needs when your own marriage is in crisis?

Oh friend, get thee to Ruthie’s site! You will find hope for marriage and motherhood.

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I’m privileged to be sharing at her blog today, offering encouragement for moms and for marriage.

Be sure to poke around her site while you’re there. She and her husband headed into Florida in an RV as Florida began to brace for Hurricane Irma. Don’t worry, they found a safe place to ride out the storm. You can read her posts about that adventure.

You’ll find some much-needed humor, but also some deep truths for your marriage and motherhood.

Join me today at Ruthie’s blog!


 

Support for women who are standing for their marriage, trusting God to restore and redeem.

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Sharing with Alisa Nicaud at Salt & Light, with Arabah Joy at Grace & Truth

Scriptures of Hope

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The to-do list is long this week, and honestly, I don’t know if I’ve ever written so much in my life. There have been my own posts, posts for others who are sharing our book, social media posts, and to be honest, I’m just plain tired. But, this is not the time to stop!

Jen and I have developed some intense faith - a faith that has carried us through the darkest times. As we discussed what we might share with you as a bonus to go with Hope for the Hurting Wife we kept thinking about some of our favorite verses that God placed on our hearts.

Are you searching for hope? Do you feel alone in your struggle? We are offering these Scripture cards as a gift for you as we share Hope for the Hurting Wife

These verses have been on my heart at various points along this journey. When the road was too dark, I would stop and these are the verse that I would recite to my heart, to tell it the truth. These are the verses that I would write down and tuck in my pocket, or in my bag, or in my wallet, and carry them with me so that I would remember that I’m not alone.

Friends, while we all want our marriages to work out, the truth is that none of us know the final outcome. Only God does.

Our challenge, though, is to take our eyes off our problems, and focus completely on God. What we’ve learned through this process is that no matter what happens in your marriage, you’re going to need a rock solid relationship with the Lord.

If your marriage succeeds, praise God! You’re going to need that faith to fall back on as you continue to move forward.

If, however, your marriage is not restored, you can use your faith to help you get through to the next chapter in your life - because there is a next chapter!

Are you searching for hope? Do you feel alone in your struggle? We are offering these Scripture cards as a gift for you as we share Hope for the Hurting Wife

So as a bonus to go along with Hope for the Hurting wife, we’d love for you to download these 8 Scripture cards of hope (4 are shown here, click on the download at the end of the post). They have the same beautiful design as our book does, and these are God’s Word that we all need to hide in our hearts.

 

 

You can download the Scriptures of Hope, and be sure to check out Hope for the Hurting Wife.

Scriptures of Hope

 

 

Marriage Advice to Remember

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For the past few months, I’ve focused on finishing the book we’ve been putting together. I’ve read emails, responded to hurt lives, prayed with women near and far, working to keep hearts pointed to Jesus and committed to marriage. While this has been a tremendous privilege, I’ve also realized just how much advice we listen to on a daily basis.

If you’re married, I have no doubt that you’ve received a lot of advice, just as I have. I believe a lot of it is given in love from very well-meaning people. But sometimes, it’s just plain hard to figure out what to do with some of that advice.

Do you remember all the marriage advice you received? Chances are, you've forgotten some of it. I'm sharing marriage advice to remember!

“Do this,” or, “Don’t do that.”

“Treat him this way,” or “Make sure to cook a meal he loves.”

“Decide on these important things before you get married,” or, “Don’t make the same mistakes I made.”

These are important pieces of advice to consider and each piece has value.

As I was compiling thoughts for our book, I really started to think back on marriage advice that my husband and I received, and I realized that for over 18 years now, one bit of advice has stuck in my head. One!

It wasn’t your typical marriage advice, but maybe that’s why it has stayed with me. This advice was simple, and it was actionable. It was something I could put into advice on my wedding day and so many days after that. I don’t remember who gave it to me, but it has impacted my life in a dramatic way that I now share it when I write out a wedding card.

So while I could give you some solid, heavy-duty marriage advice, I realize the advice that sticks with me is the small, simple 5-word sentence that someone gave to me.

Come over to Fulfilling Your Vows with me and see what marriage advice has stuck with me!

 


 

Hope for the Hurting Wife

 

 

Linking up with Crystal Storms at #HeartEncouragement, with Holley Gerth at #CoffeeForYourHeart

 

When You’ve Lost Hope Because Marriage is Hard

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Marriage is hard work and sometimes we feel like we've just lost hope. Hope for the Hurting Wife offers hope and encouragement for struggling wives.

You’ve seen the announcements, you’ve walked in prayer with me, and today I’m thrilled to let you know that Hope for the Hurting Wife is available!

Hope for the Hurting Wife comes out of one of the darkest times in my life. It’s been nearly 4 years since things fell apart, and honestly, I wasn’t sure how I’d feel when I held this book. This book represents a few years of intense pain and loss.

But that’s not what I feel when I hold this book.

Marriage is hard work and sometimes we feel like we've just lost hope. Hope for the Hurting Wife offers hope and encouragement for struggling wives.

You see, I believe the devil thought that his scheme would kill my marriage, that maybe it would even bring physical death to my family.

While this part of my life has felt very much like standing up to a Goliath, I’ve been reminded that Goliath was defeated by one young man. David took up his weapon of choice, a stone for his slingshot, not a strong powerful sword. He threw off the common plan of attack, telling Saul that his kingly armor was too big to truly offer support.

He faced his giant with only his faith in God and the knowledge God had given Him.

Maybe that’s what our world needs - a few more people to stand up with their faith in God, to say, “This battle is the Lord’s!”

As I hold this book, as I think about the role it plays in my life, I realize I’m no longer consumed with the story that this book represents.

Instead, I see a message of hope that God has brought out of my mess. I see a testimony that I hope will encourage and inspire others.

Marriage is hard work and sometimes we feel like we've just lost hope. Hope for the Hurting Wife offers hope and encouragement for struggling wives.

 

My co-author, Jen Stults, and I, know the realities of a hard marriage. We know the feeling of wanting to leave our marriages because the struggle is too much. But we also know that God can work in the hardest of circumstances to bring true healing and redemption. We’re praising God for the ways He has worked in our marriages.

God has used this book to bring me healing as I work through healing in our marriage. It’s by the grace of God that my marriage is restored, and it’s through being able to offer hope to other wives that I’ve learned to find hope in my own marriage.

Our families have offered their full support as we have walked this redemption road, and for that we are eternally grateful. I was blessed and encouraged by these words from my dad a couple weeks ago:

John 12:24-“I tell you the truth, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies,
it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds.”
This book was brought forth from near death,
perhaps in some ways a total surrender as a living sacrifice.
May it now bring for much fruit for God’s glory.
I am proud to be your father.

Yes, may this book truly bear fruit for the glory of God!

When I look at this book, I see a God-story that only He could write. I see a resource to help other women stand up against the Goliath in their lives, to fight off the schemes of the devil in their marriage. I see hope.

I see REDEMPTION.

Hope for the Hurting Wife

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So to celebrate, Jen and I are having a giveaway!

 

A couple of our blogging friends have graciously offered to give away one of their books to a winner here on my blog and one over at Jen’s blog. So be sure to enter here and then hop over to Jen’s blog and enter her giveaway as well!

Marriage is hard work and sometimes we feel like we've just lost hope. Hope for the Hurting Wife offers hope and encouragement for struggling wives.

One winner will win a print copy of Hope for the Hurting Wife,
Every Wife’s Choice,
A Wife’s 40-day Fasting & Prayer Journal,
and an eBook copy of Blues to Bliss.
This is a power-packed bundle of books!

* Hope for the Hurting Wife, by Rebekah Hallberg & Jen Stults
“This is the first book about marriage from a Christian perspective that doesn’t gloss over the hard stuff. Hope for the Hurting Wife is a thirty-day devotional journey that meets hurting and heartbroken wives right in the midst of a difficult marriage and gently encourages them to find hope that truly lasts.”

* Every Wife’s Choice: Loving Beyond the Mood of the Moment, by Sarah Fairchild
“Whether you’re seeking to save a broken marriage or simply reinforce an already strong bond, this bold approach to bible study promises practical application for real life loving beyond the mood of the moment.”

* A Wife’s 40-day Fasting & Prayer Journal, by Kaylene Yoder
A Wife’s 40-Day Fasting and Prayer Journal is designed to bring wives to the feet of Jesus through prayer and other spiritual disciplines.”

* Blues to Bliss: Creating Your Happily Ever After in the Early Years by Ngina Otiende
“So what happens when the blues – challenges and adjustments of young marriage – check in during those early days of marriage? How do we escape the trap of wheel-turning in blues land and break into enduring bliss? Ngina Otiende answers this question in Biblical, practical ways that will impact and change your marriage!”

Follow the rafflecopter instructions to enter. You can through any of the categories that you’d like.

Then be sure to head over to Jen’s blog and enter her giveaway as well!

You have until 11:59pm Eastern time on September 14th to enter!

Thank you for celebrating with us!

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Linking up with Kelly Balarie at #RaRaLinkup, with Holley Gerth at #CoffeeForYourHeart, with Patricia Holbrook at Recharge Wednesday, with Alisa Nicaud at Salt & Light, with Suzie Eller at #livefreeThursday, with Susan B. Mead at #DanceWithJesus, with Arabah Joy at Grace & Truth