Every Tuesday evening, I turn my porch light on. I don’t turn the light on most other days, though. Tuesdays are not an easy day in our house; they are a day of stressful meetings for my husband. Each meeting is a sign of growth and progress, though, despite how difficult it is. So why do I turn the porch light on? Because forgiveness in marriage is an ongoing choice.
It wasn’t too long ago that I almost lost my husband – spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and even physically. I wasn’t sure what a day would hold.
Our lives turned upside down with some poor decisions that were made.
Because Tuesday is the day that is hardest for my husband, I want him to know that the light will be on when he comes home. I want that light to be a reminder that we are all home together. The porch light signifies my choice to continue to show forgiveness in marriage.
The Ongoing Choice to Show Forgiveness in Marriage
There haven’t been a lot of people supporting us through this time in our marriage. There have been a lot of people who don’t understand, or don’t want to understand, the power of redemption in marriage. Many people have expressed their own inability to forgive in marriage. It’s not an easy choice.
Thankfully, though, there are those who still believe in redemption, who still steward what God has given for them – His own son’s life – to make the way for others to come together corporately and strengthen their faith. God has been gracious to place those people in our lives.
So after a long hard day, I want my husband to know someone is thinking about him, missing him.
We all need to know someone is waiting for us, no matter what. We all need someone on our side.
I’ve watched too many people walk out on my husband. I’ve watched too many people act like his sins are too great to forgive, too great for God to redeem.
But the person going through the struggle desperately needs support. They need to know they’re not alone.
Standing for Your Marriage
What if we all believed in that one person who seems unlovable? to support the spouse through an addiction?
What if we worked to rescue our spouse, friend, or coworker despite the situation?
What might our world look like?
We’d all feel more supported. We would have ongoing opportunities to give, and receive, God’s grace. There would be numerous opportunities to share about the Lord and His redemptive power.
You’d get a front row seat for God’s work and for the display of His splendor!
That doesn’t mean that things will be easy or that everything will immediately fall into place. There are still consequences for choices we make.
Forgiveness in marriage doesn’t mean that we cover over the wrongs that happened. Instead, it means that we choose to weather the storm together. We choose to walk through the hard times with each other, rather than running away when things become too hard. We choose to work to try to overcome in a troubled marriage.
Today is Tuesday. The light by the front door will be on because forgiveness in marriage is an ongoing choice.
As for me, I will always have hope….
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