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I Took the Long Way Home Today

I probably could have been home twenty minutes earlier if I had kept up with traffic, and taken the shorter route home. I took the long way home today, though. Things have been a little up in the air for me lately, but that’s not why I drove more slowly and took turns that would make our trip longer.

Today I wanted to get home. I had things I wanted to do after my son’s two hours of therapy and then an hour drive home. As a parent, though, it’s not always about me.

I Took the Long Way Home Today 2

My 3rd grader has to read several novels this year. Honestly, this is one of the hardest parts of our schooling venture as reading comprehension is such a struggle for him. His list of novels includes some that I knew would be a little too easy, and some that would definitely be too hard.

He chose Johnny Tremain as one of his novels to read. It is such a great piece of literature and really makes the Boston Tea Party and the Revolutionary War era come alive for young minds!

However, I knew, going into it, that this book would be one that was much too hard for him, in terms of comprehension. He seemed determined, though, even if he could only read 1 or 2 pages at a time. We had the novel list over the summer, and he actually started this book in August.

322 pages of Revolutionary War era historical fiction - it doesn’t get much better for a young boy who loves to study about wars, guns, the effects on culture and economy, and so forth. However, at only 1-2 pages at a time? This book was bordering on torture for me - constant reminders to please read a few more pages.

“Try to finish a section,” I begged, “and maybe even a whole chapter!”

Only to be met with, “No possible way! This book is too hard for me to read too much of at one time.”

GREAT realization of his own needs, if I do say so myself! But, it did not bode well for finishing a 322-page book. (And yes, I do know I’ve already mentioned that the book has 322 pages. It just seems to bear repeating.)

When we were getting ready to go to therapy today, I asked him to take his book and work on getting it done. He was on page 288, so I was moderately hopeful! After eating some lunch, he had a little while to read, and read the 12 pages to get to page 300.

He read 12 pages on the drive to therapy. That meant 22 pages to read on the way home. I wasn’t hopeful.

And then we started driving. He’d give me little progress reports. He’d peek out from behind the seat and say, “Page 304!” Or he’d comment about what was happening on page 307. As we sat in a little traffic, I realized we could maybe - just maybe - get this book finished…if…I took the long way home today.

And so I slowed down. I didn’t keep pace with people in the left or middle lane. Rather I slowed down to the speed of people in the slow lane. (Around here, that’s the lane where people *only* drive about 5 miles per hour *over* the speed limit. Not really “the slow lane”; I realize that.)

As it worked, there was an accident on a separate road and so it took longer to get to our exit, and I chose to view that as a blessing (in order to give him more time with his book) rather than to be frustrated that the drive home was taking even longer.

As we got closer to our neighborhood, I made the choice to stay on the main road rather than take a short cut. I had to chuckle when I rounded the big bend in the road, only to find out that we were behind a long school bus, which could not drive up the hills very quickly.

And so he read more pages.

And then we got to our town. In the spirit of really taking the long way home, I opted out of the final “shortcut” and drove through the center of town. We waited in a couple long lines of traffic at a red light, we had several stop signs on our route, and I drove down the final small hill at about 10 miles per hour. I went about as far out of my way as I could, while still trying to get us home.

He wasn’t finished.

I turned slowly into our driveway, disheartened because he hadn’t finished.

I put the van in park.

And then I heard, “I’m DONE,” and I saw the biggest I’ll-show-you-all-my-teeth-because-I’m-so-happy-this-is-DONE grin!

Several months, 322 pages, a great historical fiction book - DONE!

I hope he always remembers how happy he felt to have finished this book. I hope he feels pride in his effort, and that maybe, just maybe, he actually will remember some of what he read!

And though he won’t ever really know why he was successful at completing the book on this day, I will know.

I’ll know that it’s because I took the long way home today.

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Special Needs - Not Just Disabilities

booksWhen someone says “special needs” many people - often, myself included - immediately assume a disability or a diagnosis. And quite often, we’re probably right. However, I often come back to this phrase and I keep on thinking - I think more broadly. Special needs are not *just* disabilities.

I’m a proponent for individualized education. I don’t mean an IEP; rather, I mean working with the student, at their level, rather than expecting that all kids in 4th grade are at the same level. (That’s probably why I gravitated toward Special Education in college, rather than just Regular Education.)

We’ve dealt a lot with special needs here in our home - Picasso has a long list of letters regarding his diagnosis: IEP, 2E, ASD, OT, SLP, etc. These don’t define him, these just tell us about a certain part of him. His “special needs” are that he needs more time to work, he needs quiet, he needs to be free to roam as he does his work. THOSE are his special needs as a result of his diagnosis.

In that line of thinking, I believe that all students have special needs - they all have conditions under which they work best. Some prefer music to study by, others prefer silence. Some work well in groups, others need to work individually. As I’ve been home with our kids, I’ve learned many of their special needs. Our daughter likes to be able to talk out loud while she does her work. This doesn’t bode well for the one who needs quiet! Our older son loves every opportunity to learn. His special need is for continued opportunities to learn.

For so long we’ve focused on our younger son’s therapy needs - helping to address his special needs. That’s just been the way it has had to be. Things have had to be centered around his needs because they have been necessary to his overall functionality and ability to navigate through life. He has gained so much and is learning and growing at a tremendous rate and we are grateful! We’ve been able to get him to a point where things are easier for him - life is easier for him!

And keeping in mind the special needs for all 3 of our kids, we’re looking at moving some of his therapies closer to home. In fact, we should hear on the transition of one therapy soon, hopefully. Having him closer to home will directly allow us to focus on our older son’s special needs - a love of learning.

Our older son has the opportunity to apply for a program that will allow him to skip 8th grade next year, and move right on to high school with a group of similarly-minded academically-strong students. The demands on his time, and ours to work with him, will be greater. Having Picasso’s therapy closer to home will allow us the time and flexibility needed to focus on our older son’s love of learning. The place we currently go for all our therapy is almost an hour away, one way. It has served us so well, and I’m sad to even start to consider moving on.
But I firmly believe we owe our older son all that we can possibly give to meet his needs as well. He carries 95% or better in all his classes, he’s been accepted to the National Junior Honor Society, he keeps up with his piano practice, he reads more than I’ve seen many kids read, he helps around the house, participates in youth group and church activities, all the while wanting more opportunities to learn or read.

And so, this weekend, we’ll sign all the forms, fill out all the information, and send in the application for him to join this program. It will be a good fit for him. We’re hopeful that he will be accepted - he meets all the criteria - and that this will give us a great opportunity to help meet some of his special needs. We love that he loves to learn, and we’re grateful that our younger son is at a stage where we can get his therapy closer to home, focus on the siblings’ educational needs a little more, and hopefully just have more time together!

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Dropping By….

A few weeks ago, I posted about a temporary job that I had taken with the kids’ school. That job was supposed to be coming to an end this week. However, we’re at a location where many local schools are closing - both public and Catholic - and families will be faced with 30+ kids in a classroom, making it hard for each child to learn well. As a result, the job at our location has been extended through early October. So our schedule will remain a little crazy for a few more weeks.
The job is not about the money, although the money is definitely a nice bonus. I love the kids’ school - it’s met a huge need in our family, and it’s a wonderful opportunity if it’s a good fit for an individual family. We’ve had some amazing conversations with people - both good and bad. We’ve heard stories of such stress in schools that children are scared to go to school. It should not be this way. When we under-value our educational systems, we end up with some of the stories about which we’re hearing.
We’ve met some people and have heard some stories just based on our presence at the mall. Some come to talk just because we’re there - they have no children in school, they’re just passing by. A friendly smile helps to take the edge off and they seem eager for a listening ear. People have amazing stories - sometimes we just need to stop and listen.
There’s no real point to this post - just dropping in for a quick hello as we enjoy a day off (although we’re all fighting colds and such!). Have a great day!
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One Wish

I’m linking up with Create With Joy again this weekend for the Friendship Friday blog hop. It turns out I’m the Featured Friend - what an honor, considering I just started this blog about a month or so ago! Thank you!

The question of the week, for this week, is:


Imagine that you were given the power to make one wish.
You could wish for anything (except more wishes!)
What would it be?

That’s quite a question and I’m looking forward to reading everyone’s ideas. But for now, I have to figure out my own answer. ;-)

There are so many “deserving” answers - a perfect world, cure for illnesses and special needs, world peace, safety and security. Then there are so many deserving “selfish” answers - travel to all the continents, see the natural wonders of the world, have all that we want.

But the one that keeps coming to mind right now relates to education. I wish that every child could attend school safely - the school of their choice. In the city that I live closest to, there are stories of parents who want to take their kids out of public schools and put them in charter schools. There is literally a lottery to attend the charter schools. Sometimes, families have siblings that go to separate schools because one gets into the charter school and another does not.

But I don’t just wish that kids could attend school safely. Along with that, I wish they could attend EXCELLENT schools safely. Where teachers WANT to teach. Where there is no bullying BY the teachers. Where education is valued. Where teachers can convey the importance of education to their students.

But along with going to an excellent school *safely*, it needs to be a school that teaches music and art, along with science and technology. Schools need to engage all aspects of the brain, and have so many more hands-on options. School needs to be exciting, challenging, motivational, along with being educational.

Education is vitally important and my wish - when it boils down to it - is that we value education more than we do. All aspects of education. Imagine how great life could be for future generations if we placed more value on education.





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