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The Best Thing I Can Do To Bless My Husband

As wives, I imagine we all desire to be a blessing to our husbands, to encourage and support them. I have studied his love language in an attempt to bless my husband, and that always ministers to him. Sometimes, though, I feel I fall short in being a blessing with all that there is to do each day.

I’m sure your home is often as busy and chaotic as ours. As a wife, there are so many things I try to do to bless my husband – laundry, running errands, cooking favorite meals, spending time talking together. These are all good things, but after 15 years of marriage, I have come to realize the one thing that is the best thing I can do to bless my husband.

It may seem simple to you. It might not even seem like a very big deal, but it really is!

The Best Thing I Can Do to Bless My Husband - there are many good things, but I believe this is the best thing to bless my husband

The best thing I can do to bless my husband is to pray.

We’ve been married for almost 16 years, and those years have not been free of struggle. Some years it was finances, other years it was the stress of moving, and there were the first few years of parenting a child with special needs.

All of those affected my husband (and me) very deeply.

Being in the trenches with him, I wasn’t always quite sure how to help. God kept bringing me back to just one word, though: pray.

Here is what I learned, all over again… 


God often tugs at my heart to pray for my husband.

Sometimes it is for work situations, other times it may be for areas of his life where I know he is struggling. Sometimes God has prompted me to pray for his role as a husband and father.

I try to be purposeful in my times of prayer for my husband. I ask him what needs I can pray for. I inquire about his work schedule and any meetings he has.

I try to be sure to let him know that I’m praying for him. Sometimes it’s by way of a note in his lunchbox, other times a text message or an email. When he comes home in the evenings, I try to be intentional in letting him know I prayed for him that day.

It isn’t always easy, but the habit of praying for him has grown into such a special love for him. I have such precious conversations with my heavenly Father about my very best friend and God uses those to grow roots of love that I need.


We have always prayed together as a couple. We pray at meals, before we go to sleep, and often at other times as we’ve had need. I wouldn’t say, though, that praying together is something that has been the strongest part of our marriage.

When you pray with a person, there is a level of intimacy that you share – whether with a friend, a loved one, or a spouse. You are coming together to ask of the Father, and He promises to meet you.

For where two or three gather in my name, there I am with them.
Matthew 18:20

Our marriage has gone through another season of struggles recently, and praying together has been very difficult for me. God keeps nudging me to pray with my husband. Those roots of love that grow as I pray for my husband are the ones that hold strong in helping me pray with my husband.

When I try to encourage my husband and bless him with actions in my own strength, some good things do happen. He certainly appreciates clean clothes, a warm meal, thoughtful words.

But when I pray for my husband, I’m calling on God’s power to speak into my husband’s life, to encourage him, to minister to him in ways that I am not able to. I’m asking God to step in and be the friend, the encourager, the counselor that I cannot do in my human strength.

Have you prayed for your husband today? Can I challenge you to pray with your husband today? Ask what specific requests he may have, inquire about needs related to his job. Let him know you’ll be praying for him, but then take a moment to pray with him. I promise it will be a blessing to you both!

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 This post originally appeared on Christian Wife University. 

8 thoughts on “The Best Thing I Can Do To Bless My Husband”

  • Hi Becky,

    I love this! It is so important to pray and SO easy to not do it! God has worked some mighty miracles in our marriage through prayer, however, I just went through a season where I found it difficult. I made myself because I know it is essential, but I didn’t have a pure heart in it. I let anger lace motivate and lace my prayers. Working through that season has given me a new heart of thankfulness to God. Thank you for this beautiful post! I can’t wait to share it on Facebook!!
    Blessings and smiles,
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    Rebekah Reply:

    I’m so thankful to hear people say that prayer has made a difference in their marriage. We hear so much of the negative – marriages destroyed, people hurting, spouses leaving. It’s encouraging to read of good things happening in marriages because of prayer. The wonderful thing is that God softens our hearts as we pray. He reveals our own motives, as you’re saying, when we spend time praying. Thank you!


  • Prayer is like breathing air into your spouse.We cannot live without it. Without that spiritual connection we wither and die as a couple. Thank you for your encouraging words.


    Rebekah Reply:

    Yes! What a great image to consider – breathing air into your spouse! Thank you for sharing that – it’s inspiring a lot of thoughts that I’m going to spend some time with. Thank you!


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