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Beauty in Brokenness

In the warm, autumn sun, the farm is alive with life! The dew glistens on the flowers and the pumpkins, inviting your eye to see the perfection of each creation. Displays are arranged to feature the best of each type of plant, to showcase the cream of the crop. The hustle and bustle of excited children, searching for the perfect carving pumpkin, tugs at your heart and you can’t help but to smile!

In the corner, though, at the edge of the farm, out of direct sunlight, and just about as hidden as they can be, there are pots of chrysanthemums, seeming out of place. Are they extras? Are they pre-purchased? Why not display them with the others? The question is asked, and the answer seems surprising: “They are broken.” To most, these are undesirable, imperfect, not suitable. But every now and again, I think we need to look beyond the exterior perfection, to find the beauty in brokenness.

beauty in brokenness

Broken - not “impossible to sell”, just “damaged, imperfect” and so the farmer was willing to take less money. But, isn’t that the chance you take with a plant? That it may die, or that it may break? Or that the frost will claim it a little too early? Three broken mums were less than the price of one small, perfect mum, and so we chose the three we wanted.

Broken. Wanted. Imperfect. Chosen.
Claimed. Tended. Flourishing.

Isn’t that how it is when Jesus looks at us? In our own strength, we are broken, imperfect, deeply flawed. Yet when God sent Jesus to earth, He wasn’t sending Him to look for the perfect. He was sent for the needy, the hurting, those with a heart to hear His words, the imperfect.

And if we’re honest, that’s all of us - we are all imperfect, needing Jesus. Some of us may stand off to the side, others may be tucked away behind the fence, or hidden in the shadows.

Those mums that were featured, though, put out as the best and the brightest? They have just as much of a chance of being broken, damaged, or deeply flawed if not properly cared for. There’s no guarantee that they will flourish - not without proper care.

And Jesus comes along, and He looks at us. He sees our imperfections, He finds us out of the way. He seeks us, broken and damaged as we may be, hiding because we don’t measure up, and He claims us.

Claimed by Jesus.
Bought with a price.

Our salvation cost His life. He saw such value in us - whether we were the featured, lovely-looking life, or the hidden, damaged life - that He paid the price for us.

And He takes us, tends our wounds, our battle-weary hearts, places His perfect protection on us, and we are His.

We are claimed by the only One able to mend our mess. We are tended by the only One able to make us into what we ought to be, and we flourish because we are loved by the One who can find beauty in our brokenness.

 

 

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Taking Care of You

Taking Care of YouDear Weary Mom, you do so much, as a mother. I know of the school schedules, the kids’ appointments, the laundry, the homework, the cooking, the cleaning. You give and give, until it feels like there’s nothing more to give. And then you dig down deep and give some more anyway. But, sweet friend, who is taking care of you?

As moms, it often falls to us to see that our family’s needs are getting met - whether it’s picking up dry cleaning for our husband, spending time calming a child down during a meltdown, keeping up with the yearly check-ups for our kids, or even just keeping up with the dishes.

Sometimes, though, it gets to be too much. We need a break. We need a retreat from the noise of life. We need someone else to step in and remind us that we’re worth taking care of as well.

Dear Friend, you are worth caring for as well. You’re worth the time it takes for you to feel well-rested. Sometimes we need to put our to-do list on the shelf for a bit, and take a break.

Here in my corner of the world, we’re experiencing some beautiful autumn weather. Maybe some time outdoors would help you feel refreshed and rejuvenated. Maybe a trip to a local farm to pick a pumpkin or some beautiful mums would be just the thing to help you breathe deep and soak up life!

Maybe you just need some time away from being a caregiver. How about calling a friend and asking her to meet for coffee? Or a meal? Perhaps you could take a night off - before your body gets sick and forces you to do so. Why not grab a favorite book or movie, a favorite snack, and put your feet up! Laugh again, at all the funny parts of the movie - laugh, out loud! Go ahead!

Maybe you need some deeper help, though. So much of what we do as parents is hard work. Your doctor will be able to help you seek direction if you need medical attention. And, moms, there’s nothing wrong with seeking some extra help. Sometimes we need someone who is outside of our daily routine to look into our lives and speak life into different situations. Make sure you’re keeping up with physically taking care of yourself!

Step back, when viewing your kids’ actions, and try to remember that sometimes (not always, but sometimes) they are acting out of a place of childish behavior. After all, they are children, and there’s a fine line between childishness and disobedience. When you can, keep in mind that they are probably acting out of their childish ways at times. Laugh with them, enjoy their outlook on life.

Mamas, you know this but I’m going to remind you. You’re the glue that holds the house together. When you are feeling well and handling life well, you can pass that strength on to everyone else in your household.

Here are a few simple tips to getting through the day:

1. Start with Jesus - maybe a devotional, maybe a chapter in your Bible, maybe just one verse that you can write down and meditate on each day. Put on some worship music - get your heart into the right place.

2. Laugh a little - be intentional with this. Maybe look up a funny joke that you can share with your kids. How about checking out a book of jokes from the library? Take time to insert yourself into your child’s life and laugh with them.

3. Pray - pray with your child, for your child, and even for your own heart. Let God know if you are needing encouragement, or friendship, or even that you need a break. (He knows anyway, go ahead and tell Him - be open about how your heart is feeling.)

4. Reach Out - remember that you have a lot to offer, but also, don’t hesitate to extend your hand when you are needing. Reach that hand out, sweet friend, so that someone near and dear can grab hold of you.

5. Carve Out Time - each day, take some time for you. Be intentional about this, too, especially if you’re just beginning to take care of yourself. Even 5 minutes, just to sit and close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Maybe in the evenings, after the house is quiet, you could grab some tea and a book (yes, really!) and just read one chapter. Hey, it’s a start! Do this - everyday. This will start to become your favorite time of the day!

And the thing is, the more you start to take care of yourself, the easier it becomes, and the more you believe, deep in your heart, that you are worth it (and you ARE worth it)!

dearwearymom_button_whiteDear Weary Mom, please make sure you are taking care of you. As moms, we’re so quick to lend a hand, help a friend or family member, clean up a child’s battle wound, speak soothing words over our husbands when they have had a tough day. But moms, make sure you’re taking time for your heart as well!

I’m linking up with friends over at Hope for the Weary Mom - won’t you come join us?

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The Goodness of One Simple Moment

Many good things have happened in our home lately - many! I’m taking note of all the blessings. But last week? My heart. My heart has overflowed with the goodness of one simple moment.

I don’t write about the special needs aspect of our lives quite as much anymore, - at least, not the day-to-day of it, but there are some times when things need shared, and accomplishments need celebrated, and life needs to be valued.

The Goodness of One Simple Moment

When I was pregnant with Picasso, tests came back abnormal and there were all sorts of health issues, and we were given a choice.

THE choice.

To us, it was not a choice. Keeping the baby, despite the uncertainty of what may happen, was our decision, no matter what.

The first 5 years of his life really challenged our convictions in the “no matter what” of love.

I am a special education teacher by trade. My gut told me something was wrong, but I could not get a doctor to listen, to share my concerns, or to believe me, and so our choice to love, no matter what, was a struggle we ventured through on our own when we really should have had more help.

After a time, I crossed paths with another mom in the same situation and God used her in mighty ways to get to a point in my heart, and a therapy center, where I could begin to get help for my son.

When we started there 3.5 years ago, his reciprocal language scores were low. So very low. Maybe they never even fully developed. He didn’t know to look at people, he did not read facial expressions, he took no cues from others. He did not understand conversation, and he didn’t look at people talking to him, so he had no possible way of learning (or understanding) emotions.

His emotional development was also very far behind where it should be.

A lot of his therapy has centered around verbal and non-verbal cues, prompting to help him learn to LOOK at people when he’s interacting with them - to notice their facial expressions. From there he was supposed to try to recognize their facial expressions and then verbalize his recognition of facial expressions and other verbal or non-verbal cues. For example, did they look happy? sad? angry?

Last week, our daughter was doing an art project that was an extension of a lesson she had about Henri Matisse. She colored shapes, cut them out and glued them onto paper to make a beautiful scene. She then asked me where Matisse was buried. She said she wanted to take her picture to lay at his stone (that was her word for grave). Matisse would have been honored to receive that work!

My son was cutting shapes, too. As we often affectionately refer to him as Picasso because of his love for art, I was not surprised to find him joining in her project.

And then, there it was. Even now, my eyes fill with tears. My heart is full, so full.

I could not capture his words quickly enough, and typed through my tears. Later he permitted me to take some pictures, as he again described some of the most beautiful words I’ve ever heard from him.

You needed the background of what he has struggled with, as shared above, to understand and appreciate what happened. And while I don’t expect that you will have the same tear-filled, joy-overflowing response that I did, please “get” this. Please understand JUST how big this is:

He said, while manipulating shapes, “You can just FEEL his emotions, can’t you?!”

He once knew no emotions. He once recognized nothing pertaining to emotions.

And now he FEELS them?!?! That’s understanding on a whole other level!!!

He went on to manipulate pieces of paper, shapes he had cut out, into these forms, and labeled each picture - some as a type of person, some as an emotion.

Faces 1 - 1 Faces 2 - 1

Please, tell me you understand? It’s taken 3.5 years of therapy, and 9 years of his life, to know an emotion, understand an emotion. And now that he can create the emotion, it means he has internalized the meaning, the understanding of it, and knows the “why” behind the emotion.

I couldn’t capture the information quickly enough and then get it sent to the therapists. They all got back to me quickly and expressed their utter amazement! Then, at one of his sessions last week, apparently he made more faces, different faces.

He made sequencing plans with another therapist in order to have some “cooking homework”. He still struggles with small things like, “Put your pajamas on, brush your teeth and go to bed.” But now he’s starting to follow multi-step cooking directions, feeling more confident in his own abilities within life.

My heart. The joy we might have missed with this one, or any of our kids, if our decision-making had been any different.

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Autumn Inspiration Week Posts

Autumn Inspiration Week PostsI’ve been participating in Autumn Inspiration Week with other blogging friends. I wanted to give you a place where you could see all of my posts in one place, and also refer back to the other posts.

A: Ask, Seek, Knock

U: Unless the Lord Builds the House

T: This is the Confidence

U: Until I Come, Devote Yourself

M: My Flesh and My Heart May Fail

N: Now to the King Eternal

And here is the link to see what autumn-themed posts other bloggers are sharing:

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Stop by and see what others are sharing. I know you will find some quality posts to help you welcome autumn!

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Now to the King Eternal

Today is the final post in my Autumn Inspiration Week series. This may be my favorite verse of the 6 we’ve looked at this week:

N: Now to the King eternal, immortal, invisible, the only God,
be honor and glory for ever and ever. Amen. -I Timothy 1:17

Now to the King eternal

This verse always reminds me of the majesty of God. Eternal. Immortal. Invisible. The only God. No one else can be described this way - not since the beginning of time, and not even at the end of time. Only God.

Only God!

Isn’t that reassuring? If things are not going well, we can remember that our battle is not against flesh and blood (Ephesians 6:12), and that we can’t see the battle in the spiritual realm, but we know that God - eternal, immortal, invisible - is fighting for us! When the enemy is attacking, the best way to ward him off is with praise, and a great way to do that is to focus on these aspects of Who God is!

And when things are going well, are we remembering to thank God for all He does for us? In our own power, we’re unable to accomplish many of the things we do in life. Often, it’s only because of God’s help that we’re able to accomplish what we do. Are we remembering to acknowledge Him and thank Him for that? All honor and glory are His!

I hope you’ve enjoyed the posts this week. Honestly, it’s stretched me a little to write every day, but I’ve enjoyed focusing specifically on Scripture this week! If you need to catch up on the older posts, you can find them here:
A: Ask, Seek, Knock
U: Unless the Lord Builds the House
T: This is the confidence
U: Until I Come, Devote Yourself
M: My Flesh and My Heart May Fail
N: Now to the King Eternal

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My Flesh and My Heart May Fail

This week we’ve been looking at Bible verses that begin with the letters in the word ‘autumn’. The verse God laid on my heart today seems so appropriate for this time of year, as many are overwhelmed by back-to-school activities, or adjusting to new schedules, or dealing with a life that’s a little different from what they might have hoped for or expected. Today’s verse if Psalm 73:26 -

M: My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever. Psalm 73:26

God is the strength of my heart

Sometimes as we travel through our days and weeks, we work on getting things done - doing the things we know we need to do. We get caught up, or at least I know I do, in a cycle of self-reliance. For example, I don’t give a lot of thought to including God in the somewhat smaller areas of my life, like the laundry or the meal-making. Not that I’m trying to exclude Him, but I’m not actively including Him. I don’t think this is necessarily a bad thing.

However, when that lack of focus on God, and lack of reliance on God, seep into other areas, and I find myself trying to take on things in my own strength, then that becomes a problem. I get worn down, I get sidetracked, I lose my focus. I grow weary so easily, even in doing all the good things.

I may become frustrated with the kids because they are all battling for my attention, rather than making time to spend with each of them. I may get discouraged in attempting to keep up with the cooking and cleaning because I’m feeling so overwhelmed in other areas that I’m trying to manage in my own strength.

That’s where a choice to continually focus on God helps me to guard my heart. When I actively carry God with me through each day, even through the mundane aspects that I physically can do on my own, I find that He fills my heart.

When my heart is full with God, all of the other things fall into place.

Like the psalm-writer, I can say that God is the strength of my heart. It’s only through His filling of my heart that I’m able to keep my attitude and actions on track, focused on God.

If you’re looking for the previous posts in this series, they are listed below:
A: Ask, Seek, Knock
U: Unless the Lord Builds the House
T: This is the Confidence
U: Until I Come, Devote Yourself

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Check out some other wonderful autumn-inspired posts at Autumn Inspiration Week. Blessings, friends!

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Until I Come, Devote Yourself

This week, I’m sharing 6 short meditations for Autumn Inspiration Week, each verse beginning with the letters in the word autumn. Here’s what I’ve shared so far:

A: Ask, Seek, Knock
U: Unless the Lord Builds the House
T: This is the Confidence we Have in Approaching God

And today,

U: Until I come, devote yourself to the public reading of Scripture, to preaching and to teaching. I Timothy 4:13

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In I Timothy 4, Paul is encouraging Timothy as the church in Ephesus is facing some struggles. He is encouraging Timothy, in a pastoral sense, to keep pointing the church in the right direction.

I love this chapter, as a reminder of the right things to do, and as a strong encouragement for those in a position of leadership.

Command and teach these things. Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity. Until I come, devote yourself to the public reading of Scripture, to preaching and to teaching. Do not neglect your gift, which was given you through prophecy when the body of elders laid their hands on you. I Timothy 4: 11-14

These verses are so special to me -
- “Command and teach these things.” (Listed in previous verses)
- “Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young…but set an example….”
- “Devote yourself to….”
- “Do not neglect your gift….”

Aren’t those some encouraging reminders?

These reminders help us to keep our focus where it needs to be - on instructing wisely, on being bold in our love for God, on sharing God’s word, and on using our God-given gifts.

As we devote ourselves to the public reading of Scripture, this reminds me that we need to be meeting regularly with the congregation in church. We have much to learn from meeting together and sitting under good teaching. (Pray for your pastors, that they would hear clearly from God!)

How do these verses apply to where you are right now in your walk with God?

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This is the Confidence

This is Autumn Inspiration Week and I’m sharing thoughts on Bible verses that begin with the letters in the word autumn. You can start with reading
A: Ask, Seek, Knock
U: Unless the Lord Builds the House

And today we’re looking at the next verse -

T: This is the confidence we have in approaching God:
that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. I John 5:14,15

confidence in approaching God

As a parent, my children sometimes all talk to me at once. Uncertain as to if I’ve heard them, they all start asking me, “Did you hear me?” or, “Is that ok?” or “Are you listening to me, because this is important!”

When they are all talking to me at once, it’s hard to hear, process what they’re asking, think about an answer and then actually answer them.

I realize that God is all-powerful, all-knowing, and all those strong, wonderful things, but the concept of Him hearing millions praying at any one time? It boggles my mind! I can’t process 3 requests at once (well, not often anyway), yet God can hear us all at one time and answer as He sees fit, for our very best.

Not only can He hear us, but we’re given a promise that He will hear us, that He does hear us, if we ask in His name.

Let’s note - this does not mean that He promises to answer in the way we might want Him to. Remember, He is God, we’re not. He promises to hear us. And let’s think - out of all the people in the world, how many promise to hear us? I can tell you, if I’m being honest, there are days I don’t hear my husband when he is talking to me. It’s not because I’m tuning him out, it’s just that there is so much going on that I have to fight to find his voice.

Friends, it’s not like that with God!

When we pray, He hears us. He hears us! The God who created us, who fashioned us, who placed us on the earth at this particular time, He doesn’t leave us, He stays with us, and hears us!

And even when we can’t pray, when all that we have are the groanings of our hearts, when we ask of God, in His name, He promises to hear us.

It’s THAT simple.

And it’s THAT amazingly grand!

And if we can trust God’s promise to hear us, let’s trust that He will work on our behalf, for our good, and for His glory!

The one who calls you is faithful, and he will do it. I Thessalonians 5:24

What a blessing that God has given us!

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Unless the Lord Builds the House

I’m sharing a week’s worth of devotionals this week, using the word AUTUMN and choosing a verse that begins with each of those letters.

Here’s where we are so far -
A: Ask and it shall be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. Matthew 7:7

Today we’re moving on to the next letter.

U: Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain…. Psalm 127:1

I am not a builder. When it comes to building houses with Lego or Lincoln Logs, my kids know I’m pretty much hopeless. Don’t get me wrong - I will try. But if you want a Lego house with anything more than the most basic structure, I’m not the one to ask. It’s pretty much a given that my efforts will be in vain.

But when my husband builds a Lego house, it looks like a pretty impressive structure - one that any self-respecting Lego person would love to live in! My husband is the one with Lego skills; it comes easily for him. Therefore, the kids will ask him to do the building.

We, as people, can construct things on small scales because we can have some control over that. We can even construct things on a larger scale - like an actual house, that families can live in - because we can operate within the constraints of that size and scale.

Unless the Lord builds the houseBut what about the spiritual level? We can’t see or know what’s going on in the spiritual realm. We didn’t create the spiritual level, we can’t control anything that goes on in that realm like we can in the physical realm.

So why would we trust spiritual growth and development to anyone but God? He created the spiritual level. He knows and understands it. He put us on the earth at this particular time in history for a reason.

As I work to nurture my children’s spiritual development, it’s not something I can do on my own. I can know of the spiritual realm, I can know the battles that go on, but I cannot control the spiritual realm. Only God can. I want my children to continue to develop their relationship with God, and I can lead and point the way, but that relationship is between the child and God.

As parents, we have to trust God to build the spiritual house that our children will live in, because we cannot construct that for them. We can lay the foundation, provide support for the relationship in terms of sharing our relationship with God, but we cannot force them to have their own relationship with God. We have to leave that between them and God.

I’m grateful that our children made decisions for God at an early age, but I know there will be times where they will need to revisit their decision and continue to see that relationship grow and develop. I have to trust that as they pursue that relationship with God, He will continue to remain faithful in building their spiritual house.

I’m grateful for the opportunity to work on putting these posts together for Autumn Inspiration Week. Feel free to stop by and read some of the posts by some other fabulous bloggers.

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Ask, Seek, Knock

This week, I’m joining other bloggers for Autumn Inspiration Week. Yesterday, I shared a verse that I’m reminded of at this time of year. Coming up this week, I’m going to be sharing a short devotional each day, with a verse starting with each letter of the word autumn. For today, we’re looking at the verse for the first letter.

A: Ask and it shall be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.
-Matthew 7:7

Ask and it shall be given to youThat verse is full of such promise - not a promise of prosperity or riches, but a promise that God will meet us where we are, and provide for our needs.

He doesn’t just promise one time, though, He promises 3 times, just in that one verse! If someone, anyone, is promising 3 times in a row, I’d say they’re pretty serious about what they intend to do.

But when that promise comes from God? Three times in one verse? I think it’s safe to say that He plans to fulfill that promise!

But…

God doesn’t just say He’s going to make sure we wake up each day to have our needs met. Granted, a lot of days that does happen - and praise God for that!

God gives us some work to do in receiving what we need from Him. What is our work? We have to ask, seek, and knock.

If you’re a parent, you’ve likely been through stages with your children where you know what they need - no doubt about it. But you watch to see if they can work it out on their own, or if they ask for your help. You patiently wait to supply them with exactly what they need, but you watch to see what work they are capable of doing on their own.

It’s the same with God - He is waiting to pour out His blessings to meet our needs, but He wants us to ask, to seek, and to knock.

How do we do that?

Maybe you’re struggling in your parenting. You would certainly ask God to help you, to give you insight into your child’s heart, and you would probably ask for heaps of patience. And those are all good things. But I think sometimes God wants us to explore other avenues as well.

You might check if your church, or a local church, is hosting a parenting seminar. You have asked, and now you’re actively seeking help or additional resources. Maybe you ask a friend for help, or just to listen while you vent. You could search out some families (knock) who are seeming to make it all work right now, and learn from them.

God wants to hear from us - the most important thing we can ever ask for is salvation. Have you done that?

We can confess our sins, ask for God to forgive us and to be in our hearts and lives. And His promise, when we ask for salvation, is that we will be in heaven with Him, for eternity, after we die. Won’t that be wonderful?

Have you asked for salvation? It’s easy, and God will help you to change your life, to grow to be more like Him! If you have never done that, start there today - there’s nothing special about this prayer, and different people use different words. But you just need to say a simple prayer, like this:

Dear Lord,
I know that I have done wrong in my life, and you call that sin.
I ask you to forgive me of sins, and to be in my life.
I ask you to make me more like you.
Thank you for what you will do in my life.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.

If you prayed that prayer, please tell someone so that they can work with you to help you grow in your new life in Christ! Feel free to send me a message (see the Contact section at the top of the page) and let me know of your decision for Christ - I would love that!

As we begin this week focusing on devotions for autumn, let’s make sure we’ve taken care of the most important thing - our relationship with Jesus. He’s waiting to bless us, but we need to do our part in asking, seeking, and knocking.

Be sure to check out others who are joining in Autumn Inspiration Week.

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