August 2015 - Sharing Redemption's Stories

Gentle Words {Grace & Truth linkup}

August 28, 2024 By Rebekah 6

Gentle words.

It’s such a pleasure to talk with someone who seems to exude gentleness - from the way they look, to the way they carry themselves, to the way they speak.

Gentle words are something I struggle with. I tend to say what’s on my mind, not often thinking about how it may impact someone else.

This week’s featured post was such an encouragement to me.

“I cannot do this on my own. On my own I can be depended on to be defensive, to prove a point, to want to be accepted or acknowledged. On my own I will stir up wrath – both in myself and in others!”

Belinda’s post rang so true for me. But I love the one thing she recommends when she knows that a stressful situation will be coming - one in which we are likely to let our words fly, rather than choose them with care.

Hop over to read the entire post and glean from Belinda’s wisdom. Thank you for sharing with us, Belinda!

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Giving Up in Marriage: What You Really Lose

August 22, 2024 By Rebekah 9

“I quit.”

You’ve probably heard it, and you’ve likely even said it. So have I. None of us are alone in feeling frustrated and overwhelmed with life sometimes.

Recently I shared about how so many people tend to give up on their marriage. For some, it’s a quick choice - it’s not convenient anymore, so they’re gone. For others, it’s a choice that takes a little more time. The grass seems greener with someone else, or they can look at the faults and wrongdoings of their spouse and decide it’s time to move on.

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Please note: This post is *not* written for those who struggle through abusive relationships.
Sometimes there are situations where you need to get yourself to safety.
You need to find healing and wholeness outside of the home because it’s no longer safe there.
If you find yourself in that spot, please know that
I support you getting the help you need in a safe environment,
which may very well mean leaving your home and your marriage.

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Where is our commitment to fighting for our marriage? Where is that resolve that we once had to stand strong, and keep standing, no matter what?

What do we really lose, or forfeit, if we give up?

I hadn’t thought about it this way until a friend shared thoughts on Facebook. I love that kind of interaction because collectively, we have a lot more wisdom than any one of us on our own.

In John 11, we read the story of Lazarus’ death:

Now a man named Lazarus was sick. He was from Bethany, the village of Mary and her sister Martha. (This Mary, whose brother Lazarus now lay sick, was the same one who poured perfume on the Lord and wiped his feet with her hair.) So the sisters sent word to Jesus, “Lord, the one you love is sick.”

When he heard this, Jesus said, “This sickness will not end in death. No, it is for God’s glory so that God’s Son may be glorified through it.” Now Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. So when he heard that Lazarus was sick, he stayed where he was two more days….
John 11:1-6

The passage goes on to say that by the time Jesus arrived at their house, Lazarus had been in the tomb for four days. Martha talked to Jesus probably as any of us would, saying the things on her heart.

“Lord,” Martha said to Jesus, “if you had been here, my brother would not have died. But I know that even now God will give you whatever you ask.”
John 11:21

She expressed what I read as her frustration. “If you’d been here….” She follows it up with her belief in Jesus.

But as the conversation continues, she really expresses her unbelief, her lack of understanding.

To summarize, so far:

Lazarus got sick.
Mary and Martha sent word to Jesus in hopes that He would come heal Lazarus.
Jesus did not come to them right away.
Lazarus died.
Martha expressed frustration (or maybe doubt, or even bewilderment) that Jesus didn’t respond like they thought He should.
They expected he was dead until the second coming.

In the context of the recent post I shared, we talk about continuing to fight for our marriages.

Here’s what my friend shared, that really got me thinking:

Mary and Martha gave up on Lazarus.

Yes, they were siblings. Their relationship is not a marriage relationship.

But, let’s dig deeper.

Lazarus was sick, Mary and Martha sent for help, and when Jesus did not come, and did not respond in the way they thought He should, they gave up on the hope of having their brother with them again.

And that’s where it all came together for me.

Here’s a man who was dead. Dead, dead. He wasn’t just asleep, he was dead.

They had wrapped him in linen.

Martha complained because Lazarus had died, and now she was complaining about the stench that would come if they rolled the stone away.

Jesus was preparing to raise her brother from the dead,
and she was complaining about that, too,
because she had given up!

Then Jesus said, “Did I not tell you that if you believe, you will see the glory of God?”
John 11:40

They rolled the stone away, Jesus prayed, and He called to Lazarus in a loud voice to come out of that tomb!

And out walked Lazarus, after 4 days of being buried according to the customs and rituals of the time, having been completely dead.

{Probably as dead as many marriages are these days.}

Jesus said to them, “Take off the grave clothes and let him go.”
John 11:44b

Martha and Mary had given up on the hope of life.

Maybe you’ve given up on the hope of life in your marriage.

Maybe your marriage is already dead. Dead dead.

My God is a God of miracles. He raises the dead.

He raised Lazarus, who was so dead that they were concerned about the odor from his death!

Perhaps your spouse has packed up, moved out, filed for divorce, maybe the divorce is even final. You may have reached the point of saying, “That’s it. It’s done. I quit.”

You’ve given up.

If God says to fight for your marriage, you’d better fight!

You’d better storm heaven’s doors on behalf of your spouse, your marriage, and whatever God lays on your heart.

If you give up on your marriage, what you are actually giving up, forfeiting, is the power of God to work in your marriage.

That’s not to say He won’t work anyway, but you are telling God, “No thank you. This is over. It’s finished. It’s dead. You can’t help.”

And along comes someone like my friend to say that Martha and Mary gave up on Lazarus. They stopped fighting on his behalf. They accused, rather than asked for help.

When Jesus finally arrived in town, they didn’t ask for help. Yes, Martha said that Jesus was the Son of God, and that God would give Him what He asked for, but then she complained about the stench that would come if they rolled the stone away.

Friends, we don’t get to decide HOW God works.

If God has told you to fight, though, you’d better fight.

It might not make an ounce of sense to anyone but you. God sees your faithfulness, though. God knows what He has called you to. God is the only one who can work in death to bring life.

I don’t know where you are on your marriage journey. Maybe your marriage is healthy - praise the Lord! Maybe you have to work very hard at it, but your marriage is surviving. Praise the Lord! Keep working. Pursue God first, and then your spouse, with all your heart!

Maybe you’re considering giving up. Maybe your spouse is. Your marriage isn’t dead but it’s really quite sick.

Perhaps your marriage is already dead by earthly standards. You hold those divorce papers and you have to abide by a ruling that says it’s finished.

Friend, if God says to wait, if He is telling you to hold on, if He is not freeing you from that relationship, these words are for you.

Fight. Keep fighting. Pray. Keep praying.
Don’t listen to everyone who says, “Just let it go.”
Find people who are going to understand.
Find people who will pray with you.
Surround yourself with people who understand
your commitment to marriage for the long haul,
even when it seems to be already dead.

Don’t forfeit God’s power by giving up. Don’t quit before you have a chance to see what God will do in your heart and your spouse’s.

Recent news has been full of negativity with regards to marriage. The example of Christian marriage has been severely tarnished and dragged through the mud.

The enemy would love nothing more than to see people give up, en masse, on the idea of marriage.

And here I am, trying to stick it out. God hasn’t freed me from my marriage.

In fact, God has been saying just one word to me this year: Redemption.

God is the author of life. He is also the only one who has the final say on death. Hebrews 12:2 refers to Him as “the author and perfecter of our faith.”

Marriage is a covenant relationship, whether or not our society chooses to view it that way. It is a covenant with our spouse, and also with God. He is at the beginning of that covenant, and He will be at the end of it.

Therefore, if God is not letting you out of that covenant, you keep on fighting. Keep on listening to Him, no matter what.

If you need resources, let me know, I can try to find things that will help you.

Don’t give up. Keep fighting. Keep praying.

We serve a God who can raise the dead! I believe it, do you?

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This Parenting Game Could Change Your World

August 21, 2024 By Rebekah 3

This week I’m sharing a post whose idea (shared in the title) grabbed me; I was interested in reading about it. About halfway through, I thought, “This post is nice; I might share it this week. Sounds fun.” I stepped away from reading to help my kids with something. About 20 minutes later I came back, glanced at what I’d read, to get the context, and I finished the post.

By the time I finished the post, I had the CHILLS! …the GOOD kind!

The way she brought this post full-circle…and to think, I wanted to share it with you after only reading half of it!

What if everyone had a chance to play this game?

What if we stopped categorizing kids of all ages as “bad” or “good”. What if we saw each other as God does… either “dead” or “alive”, instead.

What if we rolled doubles of grace for truth in our homes, schools, and streets so that more kids of all ages could feel known and wanted… whether dead or alive?

Friends, go - just go! Jump over and read Karen’s post. Read the whole thing! She crafted this post in such a beautiful way that by the end, you will realize what a dramatic effect this simple idea can have. I’ll admit - I didn’t see the end coming. I was fully on board by the middle of the post.

But read to the end. Read all the way to the end.

This week’s featured post is “The Parenting Game That Could Change the World“.

Go.

Thank you, Karen. I pray your post gets in front of all the eyes - and hearts - that need to see it!

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